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05 Nov 07 #5911 by JulesW
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My wife and I trying to sought out our problems before we get drawn into the divorce pipeline.

I would really appreciate your experiences if you have tried couple counselling. I would be interested in which organisations you chose, how you found the counselling process and if there was variation in the counsellors and their approached.

I know of Relate, have heard of Marriage Care but know nothing about them and how they operate. Any other organisations would be useful as well as experiences of counsellors that work by themselves.

Mentioning the year may help to see if recent counselling is better than that of 10 years ago.

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05 Nov 07 #5927 by allrightnow
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Tried the soft approach with mediation, being nice didn't work. She stopped turning up, the last meeting she missed because she went on holiday with the bloke next door.

Now solicitors are involved i know it'll get nasty, they'll get richer while i get poorer.

Wonder how long it will be before i jack it all in and emigrate.

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06 Nov 07 #5931 by Sera
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Fat Boy Getting Slimmer wrote:

My wife and I trying to sought out our problems before we get drawn into the divorce pipeline.


How very refreshing, how very mature and considerate!

My ex just went straight for divorce, which - should be the very last option, when all other options are exhausted.

OK, Relate works by assessing the couple. 50 minute slots, normally about £50 They will not deal with active violence, (active within the last three months!)

That's all I know. I guess it's whatever you both bring to each session. A good counsillor won't let you use the room to just throw 'blame' at each other.

Good luck,

sera

Edited to add: When you go to a solicitor that will be it! Once legal inteference there, forget it! That is the nail in the coffin lid!!!

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06 Nov 07 #5934 by suzy_sue46
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We`ve been going to counselling for the past five weeks, after the sesion two weeks ago he said he wanted a divorce, maybe it`s just the person and not the service!

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06 Nov 07 #5935 by suzy_sue46
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mind you he has deserted a former wife and child (before my time I hasten to add)

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06 Nov 07 #5938 by allrightnow
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Mediator told me to take things slowly, we'd had seperate lives for a few years. That was 8 months ago, mediation got nowhere, the only person to gain was the mediator (a solicitor....theres a pattern emerging here!!) which cost me over £400

After using the Divorce Calculator i'd be better off just throwing her the keys.

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06 Nov 07 #5940 by dun
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Counselling did not work for my partner. He tried a number of years ago after his wife admitted a number of affairst try and save their marraige. Unfortunately you both need to want to save the relationship to make counselling work.
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