how do i slow things down!!

hi again sera.
i think you may be tarring me with the wrong brush here!
yes she has taken the girls with her and gone to stay with her mum, however i have offered and am more than willing to move out of here so she can come home with the girls i am concerned that this is causing needless upset for them.
i have sent numerous messages to her stating that the girls would be more settled here close to their friends and school than sharing a bedroom with their mum in nanas house. if it meant that my wife and kids were ok i would move out in a heartbeat and continue to pay the mortgage and bills indefinately. i dont care about my housing needs only that my wife and kids lives are not ruined because i screwed up!

desperate to avoid all th wrote:

i think you may be tarring me with the wrong brush here!

I hope you don't think that. I am quoting you Police stats, and how abused women react. (meaning your wifes reactions may be from her past as a victim of abuse, and your outburst may have triggered her leaving).

Since you just posted that your therapist said the same as me, I hope you didn't shoot the messenger there also.

I think it's admirable if she as the PWC is allowed to live at the home she bought, for the sake of the kids, and admirable if you move out instead. (Your suggestion, not mine!) I wish you continued success.