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stages of grief

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10 Nov 07 #6293 by hrm
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Apparently there are 5 stages of grief/loss.

I've pasted these from a website.
It helps me to see how far I've come!!

Five Stages Of Grief/Loss

1-Denial and Isolation.:(
At first, we tend to deny the loss has taken place, and may withdraw from our usual social contacts.

The grieving person may then be furious at the person who inflicted the hurt or at the world, for letting it happen. He may be angry with himself for letting the event take place, even if, realistically, nothing could have stopped it.

Now the grieving person may make bargains with God, asking, "If I do this, will you take away the loss?"

The person feels numb, although anger and sadness may remain underneath.

This is when the anger and sadness have tapered off. The person simply accepts the reality of the loss.

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10 Nov 07 #6294 by apm
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Heading towards 5 at the moment, not quite there yet but getting there. At least today. Who knows what tomorrow may bring!!!


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10 Nov 07 #6303 by scottishlady
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Damn.... I'm still only on number 2.... bummer !!!:ohmy:

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10 Nov 07 #6305 by Angel557
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As with my divorce i'm doing everything backwards i'm on number 2.

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10 Nov 07 #6308 by Camberwick green
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I think i'm on number 3 but keep jumping back to number 2 at times!

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10 Nov 07 #6314 by Kamau
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I have been told by a counsellor that it is not unusual to revert back to an earlier stage from time to time.

Also she said that because people are individuals, they may suffer variations of these stages and not neccesarily in the same order.

How accurate she is, I am not sure, although I have found myself back-tracking. I am told that this is normal.

I don't know if that helps anyone.

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10 Nov 07 #6320 by loobyloo
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I think ive done 1 to 5 a few times back now between 2 and 3.
Why do we as humans subject ourselves to so much trauma
x looby

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