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weird behaviour of x2b since decree nisi granted.

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12 Nov 07 #6461 by Camberwick green
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I think its more a case of not wanting you to be with anyone else rather than being 'wanted', its the old jealousy and possessivess traits coming to the fore again

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12 Nov 07 #6469 by TMax
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reading all this makes me smile to think that my X has been pure acid no matter what the occasion hehehe before or after heheh the only person ive ever met who dinks vinager and ate pickled onions by the jar for kicks yuk :-(breath like a camels anus ;-)

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12 Nov 07 #6474 by sexysadie
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This is for Looby:

Look, Looby, your ex is a first class sh*t. Since you left he has ignored the children and he is still making things very difficult for you. You already gave him one chance four years ago and he didn't change - maybe it was then that he did the sort of things that these other people are doing. It is nothing to do with you that he is not now bawling his eyes out and wanting you back: it is everything to do with him. You are well rid of this first-class manipulator. Don't let it get to you that he doesn't seem to have regrets. Maybe he is too emotionally barren to have complicated feelings.

You are obviously a lovely person and a great mum. You really don't need your ex hanging around your neck being regretful. He sounds so manipulative that you would risk going back to living with his nastiness - and you don't want to do that, do you?

Best wishes,


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12 Nov 07 #6480 by topaz
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thanks to you all for your responses,I am inclined to think it is manipulative behaviour, the control factor looming again,guessed he was up to something as I've been here before a few weeks ago and that was followed by some truly awful allegations which were totally untrue but very hurtful.I shall remain on my guard and remain as positive and determined as ever to finalize this divorce and finally get him out of my life.

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12 Nov 07 #6489 by loobyloo
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you say the best things, you always always make me feel better and boost me... youre so right bout him and cant wait til all over (and he gets hit where it hurts him...his money)
Ill buy you a virtual bottle of champers when all done,
again your a star chic
looby x

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12 Nov 07 #6498 by Sera
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topaz wrote:

I am inclined to think it is manipulative behaviour, the control factor looming again

Yup. All controlling men push-and-pull their Victims.Pushing them away; then reeling them back in again just as you show a little independence. It's up to you when his 'control' ceases to have any effect.

Call "CHECK MATE" and he'll have to stop his cat-and-mouse games.

There comes a time in life when you want to be in a 'well space', to have a supportive, loving partner that loves and respects you, or nothing at all.

Good luck, 'control' is a form of Domestic Abuse. When you understand this, you can live happily without his bullying techniques affecting the quality of your life.

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12 Nov 07 #6506 by Onelife
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Hi all..

Can I just say - Looby lou - you look great in your bikini.
and Veil - if you really look like Cary Grant - can I have your number?

Topaz, it is manipulative behaviour - he wants a way of staying in your life, he wants you to want him. It's a f**ked up way of behaving, but what it actually does in his head is hold you back from moving on because while you pay attention to his mind games, you're in limbo my friend. The minute you move on, and refuse to play the game, he's lost you forever. He doesnt want to lose you, but he doesnt want to commit either. Its emotional immaturity on a grand scale.

I wish you well and all the luck in the world. x

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