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18 Nov 07 #6974 by rob.w
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my stbx reckons that we are legally separated as soon as she filed for divorce, although i haven't yet had the paperwork.

i dont believe her?!

surely thats the purpose of the whole legal chain of events!!

in context, she will not a except that i think she is having an affair, and in her own defence she reckons that seeing him today makes no difference as... ''we are legally separated as from when i filed the papers last thursday''

hmmmm! cobblers i am thinking!!

i knew bringing up 'the affair' question wasn't going to go down well.... she threatened to phone the police and tell them that the bruises on her (she works in special school and gets a lot) and the bruises on our daughter from a party on friday were from me!!


which i guess brings me to whether the police would remove me from my own house? do you do that? they dont seem to ever remove anybody from next door and they have some blazing barneys that always end up in the paramedics popping by.


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19 Nov 07 #6986 by gone1
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Rob. Ok I think I know what you are asking. You are legaly seperated from the date that someone leaves. Thats my understanding of the law. It can also be from when U decide it is. Get me?

Police cannot evict you from your own home. However they can arrest you to prevent a breech of the peice. It sounds like things are getting a bit nasty and I would just calm down a bit. If she is the kind to suggest that bruises were made by you that in fact were obtained from her work then I suggest to you that this is someone you dont want to get nasty with.

Forget the affair. Just sign and return the papers or what ever and get the divorce started mate. You will be glad later that you did. Dont talk to her at all. If you dont say anything you cant get into trouble. Chris

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19 Nov 07 #6989 by sexysadie
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If the fights next door are that serious then maybe you should call the police yourself next time. The person being beaten up may be too afraid to and may need rescuing. They don't need to know that it was you that did it.


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19 Nov 07 #6992 by rob.w
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we do..... the other night though the paramedics refused to go in! they waited for police backup. which is never really a good sign!!

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19 Nov 07 #6993 by rob.w
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thanks for that.... i think she was of the thought that i had no grounds for x-petitioning for adultery based on her seeing him this weekend as ''we'' are legally separated as from her filing (thursday). therefore it doesn't matter who she sees or infact what she does from now on.

i have no energy or money of x-petition .... however... i am bloody minded and dont see why i have to rollover at every stage of this procedure!!

thanks for your reply

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