God yes. I thought so. I really don't think he knew how miserable I was until I'd gone.
Maybe its one thing that just didn't get heard in the bustle of daily life. I even bought a book with a big red tag line saying 'How to save your marriage' and asked him to read it with me. But I think he thought I was joking.
I can't knock him for that. It was just communication breakdown but it lead to something else, then something else etc.
I should have started kicking and screaming as soon as I knew things were heading down a path I didn't like. Instead I spent months trying to be subtle...why? What did I have to lose? If I had the time again Id have made a big deal out of little things instead of letting everything build up. Thats one of the many lessons Ive learned through all of this. If your going to 'take a husband' learn how to nag. lol.
Sorry for making light of it...its just my way at the moment.
It always baffles me when people suddenly take a massive decision when they haven't even tried to resolve things first. The thing is though, thats what my husband says I've done. Yet I was living with it for ages, and I genuinely thought he knew.
I think the note you got is shallow as hell though. That must have been horrendous. I was terrified of telling my H how I felt but thats tough isn't it? You have a responsibility to stand up and be straight with someone...and if its worth doing then it doesn't matter how hard it is... as long as you don't feel you would be in any danger, and there are always ways of ensuring that.
I thought I'd been weak, but at least I had the courtesy to speak to him, and recieve the torrade of abuse in response.