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Is the \"other woman\" your mother-in-law?

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21 Nov 07 #7272 by loopylucy
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I just wondered if anyone else had experienced a case of his (or her) mother being the cause of the break up of your marriage?!

I know I can't blame it all on her as if he hadn't been the lily livered wimp that he is and had stood up to her a little more then she wouldn't have got so out of control. But I can't be the only person who feels like the 3rd person in their marriage was their mother-in-law?

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22 Nov 07 #7326 by gone1
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Hi Lucy. I know mothers have a big pull on there sons and daughters. Some men are putty in there mothers hands and it takes an evil MIL to end a marriage. Most of them just want rid of there sons and are happy that you took them off there hands lol.

My MIL was great. She had MS though and was paralised from the neck down. Her sin was to die in 2002. After this things started to come apart for my ex and the reason for retaining me ended. I think thats when the rot set in and by 2005 she wanted to dispose of me. So in my case my MIL kept us together. Chris

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Hi Chris. I suppose it just goes to show how diverse everyone's experience has been. I guess I'm fortunate that I haven't had to handle bereavement, like you, of a what sounds like a very special lady, as well as the grief that separation and divorce brings.

My MIL was/is evil and she started doing her worst before we even married. Once the children came along she became intolerable and with her living next door to us it made me feel like I was living in a goldfish bowl. She developed an awful habit of always being at her front door whenever we passed and started asking the children where they'd been and what they'd been doing whenever went out or came in. That's just the tip of the iceburg though - there was plenty more far to much to list here.

I have learnt though that when my own son chooses a partner (many years from now) I won't be interfering whatever my opinion and however tempting it may be. I'll just offer the support we never receieved.

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22 Nov 07 #7364 by gone1
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Lucy. I cant believe that you lived next door. No wonder you felt like you were in a gold fish bowl. You never stood a chance. Perhaps it was jealousy that drove her to break you up. How bad is that? At least you can walk away with your head high.

Good attitude with your son. Good on you. Chris

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