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21 Nov 07 #7297 by TMax
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I have today recieved a letter from my sol asking if I have been talking to my son and daughter about the divorce, Im about to reply yes I have I have nothing to hide from them. BUT here is the crunch my X has told her soliciter and they are now quoting that I can be charged for talking a about a case in progress, wow thats a new one to me Ive never been told I cant talk to my family about things that may concern them in the future.

any one else had been quoted that they cant talk to ANYONE about their DIVORCE case.

well you could blow me down with a wet tea leaf, in that case if anyone got an incline of who we are in here we all be up the creek without a paddle so wiki bosses how do we stand hehehe

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21 Nov 07 #7299 by Angel557
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So what we looking at , how many yrs is it worth, can i have my own pillows in my cell please.

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21 Nov 07 #7304 by Camberwick green
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I've never heard of that one either, thought that was just for criminal cases.
suppose she is trying to make out that you have upset your Son, personally its best policy to talk with children as they know when something is wrong and can make up their own minds and think its their fault. Can't see there's much in it, they are just trying to shut you up! lol maybe she only wants your Son to hear only one side of the story.

LOL to your comment Angel, that could sound preferable sometimes!

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21 Nov 07 #7305 by OBEs 1 canoodly
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Hello Max,

Have you actually received this in writing from your wife's solicitors or did she tell you this??

Sounds to me like if it was her that it is just a pile of porkies to frighten you, although after what you've been through I shouldn't think much more she could do or say would have much effect on you now in that way!!!

Somehow I cannot believe a solicitor would say something like that otherwise we would all be shot at dawn for what we discuss on here!!

Sounds terribly unprofessional if you ask me and not at all correct......who knows though this crazy country we live in anything could happen!!!

Will keep reading this thread with interest. In the meantime hope you are well and glad to know you can now see out of your windows!!

Kind regards

OBEs 1

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22 Nov 07 #7307 by TMax
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I quote from Xs sols to my sols " we note that your client has been allowing his son and daughter to read the pleadings in this matter, please advise your client that THESE ARE PRIVATE LAW PROCEEDINGS AND SHOULD NOT BE RELEASED TO ANYONE WHO IS NOT INVOLVED WITH THESE PROCEEDINGS WE WILL BE MAKING THE COURT AWARE OF YOUR CLIENTS BEHAVOUR IN THIS RESPECT. the rest i cant put in as thier patter goes in into blurb of legal plop and possible outcome :-)SWTF. I have to show my kids things when I ask them can you give me a letter to say that they were witnesses to thier mum reciving this amount of cash that you witnessed and she is now calling you liars, they wont just do it on my say so.

:-)puts finger up bum and mind into nuteral eyes crossed and humms yankee doodle

Oh yes the next new is both hearing are set for jan 08 ealry and end of :-)

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22 Nov 07 #7310 by Fiona
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My understanding is divorcing spouses are under a duty in E&W to use information given in divorce proceedings for the purposes of the proceedings only and there are restrictions on disclosing information. When the rules don't allow it strictly speaking disclosing information is contempt of court.

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22 Nov 07 #7312 by wscowell
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Interesting new thread. Yes, Fiona is right as usual (!) B)- possibility of contempt of court by disclosing pleadings to non-parties. But there's a clear difference between telling the children enough so they know what's going on (desirable IMHO) and showing them pleadings. Too much information.... This sort of thing is heavily frowned upon.

We all know that we are under a duty to shield our children as much as possible from the conflict in these cases. Actively involving them will get you a big black mark from the Court. It's not rocket science - "harm" to children is not just physical violence or deprivation. It includes emotional harm.

Dammmit, adults have enough trouble dealing with the issues facing them, and they are the parties involved. The children aren't equipped to deal with these things, they are innocent bystanders, and we owe them better than to involve them in the cross-fire.

Sorry Max, this is a judgment and discretion thing, I repsect your motives but you may inadvertently be exposing the children to things they shouldn't be asked to deal with. Think on 't......

Will C

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