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Irreconcilable differences is not a valid reason

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26 Nov 07 #7688 by JulesW
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Although it is often used in conversation when talking about marriage and divorce it is a measure of the state of a marriage rather than a reason for divorce.

Quick divorces;
1. Adultery - but has has been said the adulterer cannot use it as reason for petition. This can only be used as a reason within 6 months of the adultery. No real reason to mention name of the other party involved in adultery and this can slow whole process down.
2. Unreasonable behaviour, again must be within 6 months of the last incident unless exceptional reason

Slower Divorces
3. Estrangement - just dont know where spouse is.
4. Uncontested separation. Both parties agree not to contest it and this takes two years
5. Contested separation. One party does not agree to the divorce. Five years.

You may find it tricky to say that your wife is showing unreasonable behaviour by not divorcing you after you have committed adultery.

I think you had better start negotiating with her and discussing some of the issues in the marriage by the sounds of it.

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Sorry this should have been a reply to someone else's posting.

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