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  • Louise11
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27 Nov 07 #7873 by Louise11
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To all Solicitors, Barristers, Financial Advisers, Pension Actuaries and anyone else who makes a living from divorce.

I have no gripe with any of you, contrary to what you may have read in some of my previous posts, unless of course you have been underhand in any of your dealings with people.
If my comments cause offence to any of you, then what I have said has probably hit a nerve.
My comments can never offend or hurt any of you if you are one of the “good” ones, who want a speedy FAIR conclusion to a divorce path your client is insistent on finalising. So that they can at least move on in life with their dignity and keep a lot of the assets they have both accumulated throughout their marriage.
If a solicitor can just see that there are two sides to every story and see it from both sides and advise accordingly then really there should be no need for a massive legal battle, costing thousands.
My gripe with many people who get their wages from this Divorce path, is that they seem to relish a “fight” because it earns them big money!
Take our case……….. The other party whilst being vindictive had been advised to go all the way to a FH, with unrealistic demands. Even when presented with evidence they did their best at every available opportunity to hide it from a Judge.
They liked to stand in Court and bleat to a Judge that their client was a lowly paid care worker and therefore needed financial help, yet they charged her thirty thousand pounds , which resulted in her having to sell her property to pay their bill. Wouldn’t it of been better to say to her at any time, look this is going to cost you a fortune, we ought to be asking to sit round a table and talk.
I swear to you all , that what they did in the three years it went on for, they lied, they tried to cover up their lies, they hid things from their client as well as us and worst of all they tried hard to hide things from a Judge ! They had a Barrister, who actually did do a good job based on the information they supplied him with. I actually felt sorry for him, when presented with evidence, they had failed to give him. There doesn’t seem to be any come back on this firm of solicitors as they say “They took their clients advice and only represented her on the facts she told them. I can assure you she is not clever enough (and I honestly don’t mean that spitefully)

Neo has stuck around even after getting a bit of a bashing from my tongue, it shows not every one is the same. Some people genuinely want to help others.

There are rotten people in all walks of life, but hopefully the Majority of people are nice. The few rotten apples should be sought out and made to pay heavily for the rotten things they do to others.

I understand at times, that there will always be one or two women who want to “take their partner” to the cleaners because they are hurting and the Men who try to hide assets and leave their ex2 b and children in poverty. But surely we should be warning these people if they want to go down that path, then they do so at their own peril and WILL lose out big time! Not only financially but mentally as well. So, to all your folks who are one of them who wish to “hurt “ their ex2b all you are doing is helping unscrupulous people by fighting for unrealistic demands, line their bulging pockets who will see it as a “good earner”!

So I for one would like to say to all the Lawyers, Barristers, Financial Advisers, Pension Actuaries who have suffered a tongue lashing from me, I apologise if I have offended any of you who are one of the good ones! You are worth your weight in gold if you can make people understand and play fair.

Kind Regards

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27 Nov 07 #7876 by Mush
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Couldn't have said it better myself Louise.. take care and keep the fight against the bad ones up... oh i'll add my x2b's sol to that list..


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27 Nov 07 #7877 by loobyloo
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Hear Hear
I felt that some times certain posts dont ring true, I think alot of raw nerves on here and if you take things personally that is because of this
I dont think you were offensive louise in fact you are quite correct to stand for what you believe is right

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27 Nov 07 #7882 by Specialdad
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That long monologue by Louise reminds of the Devil talking with God one day as they were hard at work destroying and building peoples lives.

God: "Devil, tell me do you always tell the truth?"

Devil: "Yes always, I never lie."

God: "No wonder they say the devil is in the detail!!!"

Have a great day folks. ;)

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27 Nov 07 #7893 by Camberwick green
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I think you have been more than fair, and this thread proves it!

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