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29 Nov 07 #8100 by Mrs Ingledew
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My stbx is meant according to the rules to have our children every Thursday and alternative weekends. After a month of not seeing them he contacted me this weekend to say he was going to have Abi on Thursday - all sorted I think.
20 minutes ago he contacts me to say he doesn't have fuel to go to school to collect her.
I am working 1.5 hours away and am meant to be away overnight!!
So calmly I reply that I can get her to him using my friends, then I get that he can only have her provided she is collected by 7:30. So I say fine and arrange over night childcare again.
So I (stupidly) text him and say that going forward we need to share the journeys and he replies only if I pay for his petrol!
Can't he see the only people he hurts are the children - how can he do this!!!!!!!! GRRRRRRR!!!!

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29 Nov 07 #8103 by Specialdad
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Well petrol is £1.03 these days!!

Seriously he is being a pratt, the kids want to see him and want time but if he doesnt want to give it then if they dont want to know him when they grow up it will be his fault. B)

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29 Nov 07 #8109 by 80SGIRLWOKEUP
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my soon 2bex has playd these sort of mind games for the last 18 months! insists that i must drop them off 2 him and pick them up, unwillin 2 to take boys 2 their friends birthday parties when in his time, insists that Santa come his apartment 2 and therefore 1 of my boys doesnt believe in Santa anymore!

Its awful and has drove me mad 2 tears anger depression sadness everything u can think of but as my barrister told me this week hes just tryin 2 wind u up!
take a deep breath and thank god that u have 2 some extent got the windup merchant/pratt out of ur life!!
my house is know peaceful quiet and happy! oh thats until he fons the boys and winds them up!!!
ur doin well so far just keep on doin what ur doin cos they hate 2 c u copin without them!

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29 Nov 07 #8113 by Camberwick green
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Like SD said his loss if they don’t want to know him, but that will take a long time to happen… give him enough rope and he WILL hang himself, if not me and Looby could help LOL! Of course we’d have to sort that through our Agent Specialdad!!!!

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29 Nov 07 #8114 by TMax
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From what Ive learned over time those who leave thier kids behind M&F have this tendancy to drop what meetings they have with children and then it disapears even more over the years to perhaps an hour if the kids can get there on the bus and dont want tea or dinner, then when they become old cant think why the kids dont want to know them or dont get pressies of from them. so what goes around comes around.

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29 Nov 07 #8122 by soulmanuk
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my daughter doesn't want to see her mother and sends her no cards, pressies etc. son still thinks the sun shines out of her backside but he only sees her for 1 hour a week if she can be bothered.

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29 Nov 07 #8124 by Camberwick green
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Seems un-natural for a mother not to want to see her kids, but who knows, I went through a major depression in my first Marriage and nearly walked, but I just couldn’t leave them :(

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