As I said on a previous thread with divorce/separation there is often a lack of empathy, distorted communications and overreactions that leads to resentment and resistance. People then consciously or sub-consciouosly react against their former partner and the thing to try is reverse psychology. By that I don't mean denying contact, rather you distance yourself and get on with life as though you don't care about what he does. There is no point to his behaviour if he can't provoke a reaction.
Tough I know, but under similar circumstances I found it was far less hassle not relying on my ex at all and me being available in 'his' time should arrangements go belly-up. This meant arranging important business in 'my' time so at least it couldn't be messed up.. Sorry.
My x2b ignores the fact he has got 2 children apart from sometimes I could do with the break, I have got used to it and not bothering trying to force him anymore his loss and kids lovely and happy ...rarely mention him
You have my complete sympathy. He is being a complete b*st*rd about this. To bargain about a gallon of petrol for the well being of your kids is dispicable really. Divorce and serperation are things that adults have to deal with, children should be protected from this as much as possible.
Breakups will happen to a lot of people, but both parties have an obligation to try and be there for there kids as much as possible. Children should be able to see both parents if and wehn they want to.
As a seperated dad, I despair when I see accounts like this, it also just reinforces the belief of a lot of people that absent partners just don't care about there kids.
"Breakups will happen to a lot of people, but both parties have an obligation to try and be there for there kids as much as possible. Children should be able to see both parents if and wehn they want to."
I have a similar situation myself - other than my husband is in contact with everyone except his own children. Mine, I think, are older than yours but they are feeling very sensitive - especially when they know he is in regular contact with others.
They have emailed him a couple of times recently and received no response. So hurtful to them and makes me extremely angry.