My husband asked for a separation last month. I have just discovered (letter from his solicitor today) that he now wants a divorce based on his adultery.
My daughter aged 17 has just told me she has known about his affair for some time as she found some messages on his mobile phone and it was why she tried to kill herself earlier this year. He knows she had found out and has never said anything.
She is glad I know now. However she is very down again and he is refusing to leave the house.
Can I do anything to get him to leave or would it be best to take both the children and rent somewhere?
I feel really guilty and very naive that my daughter carried this burden herself
mtoto... what an awful time youve had.... i would suggest... as i foolishly didnt... get injunction and have him leave. He has obviously caused grave damage to your daughter.
I had 3 letters sent tomy x2b but he was not for budging... so i did ..... adecision i live to regret
this is not expert advice.. just experience and from the heart]
Sorry to hear your predicament. If his behaviour is actually causing real emotional harm as opposed to the family being understandably distressed it's possible to apply to court for an Occupation order to oust him from the house. However, it might be more helpful for your daughter if emotions and practicalities are kept separate and she can stabilize her relationship with both parents.
These days it's recognised that families interact in a circular way and everyone can be implicated in high levels of family conflict resulting in serious emotional problems for children and adolescents. I would as a priority approach your GP and ask about the suitability of family therapy or counselling. See;-