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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

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03 Dec 07 #8300 by jojos07
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I received in the post last week a lovely certificate to say I am now officially divorced. I was made to believe by my solicitor under no circumstances should the divorce go through until the financial side and children access is sorted. There are many things still outstanding and we are nowhere nearer finalising anything.
This I am afraid just typifies the incompetance of my solcitor who is the most insensative, non efficient person I have ever met. Unfortunately as I have been to court once and due to go again on 2 Jan 08 (gonna be a great start to the new year!)I was told to keep the same solcitor.

Money is now getting tight and to also have to pay for a barrister to speak and negotiate on my behalf is just getting a joke. Can anyone tell me is this the norm or can you go and represent yourself and if so is it wise?

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03 Dec 07 #8301 by LovelyLou
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Hey there!
NO NO NO NO!!!! You MUST have ALL financial things sorted before divorce. I have been told this on countless occasions by a completely independant solicitor to the one I have.
I dont really know what you are going to do if you are already divorced though. YOu must speak to you solicitor asap or even phone another one, they can normally give you advice over the phone free of charge if its just a question.
Sorry I can be any more help!

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03 Dec 07 #8307 by LittleMrMike
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Lou

Welcome to the site and congratulations on an excellent first post.

Jo Jo

What Lou has said is perfectly correct ; the finances are normally sorted out before the Decree Absolute.

As long as the application for financial relief has been made in the petition, the omission is unlikely to be fatal, but if you intend to marry, you really must take legal advice p.d.q.

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03 Dec 07 #8314 by jojos07
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Thanks for that. I believe financial relief had been made in the petition. What do you do when you have paid tons of money (the normal going rate) to your solicitor who spent their whole time trying to get you Legal Aid and failed. Not really doing much about the divorce. Now I have almost run out of money how difficult is it to represent yourself in court for the FDR especially as it is about negotiation?

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03 Dec 07 #8318 by loobyloo
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jo
blimey all right should not have absolute before fnancial settlement.... my sol was adamant on that... i got nisi in may and have fdr on wed.... Im dying to be single without the milestone round my feet and neck but had to wait
hope you get sorted
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03 Dec 07 #8324 by daftbrush
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I got my absolute almost a year ago and I'm still trying to resolve finances. My X has done alot of things to prolong it all. It really depends on the circumstances/nature of the divorce, as in my case it was important to get an absolute as soon as possible.

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03 Dec 07 #8327 by jojos07
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Forgive my ignorance but why would someone want to get divorced before all the other stuff is sorted? In my case I am still living in the was marital home with my ex. The property isn't yet sold and will take some time before it is. My ex was desperate to be divorced.

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