Hi all. I am in a rather unusual position in that I am the one that left the married home. My will-be-ex husband doesn't work and I have always had to too support him, my son and myself. Due to various problems and deep unhappiness I decided that the marriage wasn't working. I tried lots of times to make things better but when its wrong its just wrong. I talked to my will-be-ex who bluntly refused to leave the house and refused to let me have my son. He also refused to let me have 90% of things from the house so I left with my clothes and a push bike. I still have a full time job and my will-be-ex is rightly on disability. He is able enough to look after our son and always has been house husband.
We have agreed that I pick my son up on a Friday after I finish work and I drop him back at 1pm on a Sunday. My will-be-ex is bitter but we both only have our son's interests at heart so we are being amicable.
Bit long winded but my question is do you think that I will need a solictor? I hoped to avoid them as I can't afford it and we are amicable.
Does anyone have any advise? I feel sick every time I think about starting a divorce. I get awful butterflies. I left in February should I wait abit longer do you think? Any advice welcome.
No time to reply right now but as you are in a very similar situation to me I had to say something.
You dont mention housing, assets or whether you feel your son should spend more time with you. What do you want, what would be best for your son? I delayed things far too long and now 1 year later have my youngest tonight for the 1st time in a year. My solicitor wanted me to do something quicker and i delayed thinking i could work things out with Ex....how wrong I was.
Have to go now and collect from school. If I get the chance I'll post later or tomorrow.