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08 Dec 07 #8681 by govtepe1
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I have being married for 8 years and my husband cheated on me , i cannot prove this but we are going through divorce now, he is a very abusive male and because i was sceared of him i left the matrimonial home and , he never contrubuted anything to the bills or the mortgage , during the marrigae i brought a home sole on my name and paid for it and sold it , the second home is on both of our names , i now have no where to live and want to go back to my property but he wont let me in and he wont pay for anything he is living in the property free of charge and i am staying at friend and relatives, i dont know what to do he is keep phoning my mother and asking fro money so he can leave home , he comes outside my mothers home and scears me and pestering me for money , because of him i am off form work due to stress and now have physical ilnesess cus I am so depressed by him and have no static place to live, can some one advice me on what to do , i cant rent out cus i am still paying all the bills .

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08 Dec 07 #8685 by sexysadie
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If he is harassing you and your mother you should be able to take out a non-molestation order against him. See a solicitor for advice about how to do this.

You need to get the divorce process started and settle financially so that you can get some money from the house. If you have no children (as I assume is the case) you will probably be entitled to 50% each. This will seem unfair if you have paid for everything throughout the marriage but it will be better than your present situation in which he has everything and you have nothing.

Does he have an income or the potential to earn one? You might have to pay spouse maintenance for a while if he doesn't, or if he earns much less than you do.

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08 Dec 07 #8688 by govtepe1
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we dont have no children, amd yes his pestering me for money, the divorce started already, he earns alot but pay slips show he gets 100 pound a week, i dont know why he should claim 50 percent , he is playing with me saying he wont leave home and make me pay for everything .
he has gone bancrup whilst married and lost everything , and when i started working he made me pay for everything . its very stress full , i cant bealive he will get what he does not deserve.

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08 Dec 07 #8689 by Specialdad
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As sexy says get a NMO and an Occupation Order asap. Go to the local police station and get them to register a complaint for harassment against him. If they are not too busy they will visit him.

Get a good sol and slam a petition faster than superman. Dont pay any bills for the house he is in. Cancel all standing orders and direct debits. If necessary change bank accounts. Rent somewhere safe.

Get help from the local womens refuge they will give you good advice as well as somewhere safe to stay.

Personally I would chop his head off with an axe and stick it on a pike but you will have to follow the legal route!!

All the best. B)

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08 Dec 07 #8694 by govtepe1
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thank u for the advise, but i tryed to cancell direc debits and every thing but they said to me because everything is in a joint name i am liable to pay everything if not i will be in black list aswhel ashim , and thats what he is trying to do, so i dont have life and not able to stand up financially.
i will go to my solicitors and explain to him about the orders and hope fully that will help, i cant bealive i never knew the man i married with for 8 years, i think he lives in the flat with his girlfriend and this is more disturbing because i brought everything in that flat , i newly decorated it and it is hurting me , i cant sleep thinking that i have done nothing wrong and now i am vonurable.
i feal like going to the flat knocking the door down and sitting in it ,but i am so sceared that he will do something to me,he is very sceary and followes me around , and depressing me for just money .
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08 Dec 07 #8696 by Specialdad
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You can write to the bank and ask for your name to be deleted from it and the account closed. Explain to the bank that you have seperated and they should freeze the account.

Once the ancillary relief hearings start he will have to make an offer to give you at least 50% probably more.

Dont be scared. Just kick him in the privates if he tries anything as well as take a couple of male friends with you when you meet the idiot.

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08 Dec 07 #8697 by rkowski
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hi there be cool - i am suffering at the moment bcos my wife is lying in order to get a non molest and occupation order out agaginst me - i have said she and the kids can returd to the home i will leave and pay her 30% plus of my wage to support but she wants more and is wanting me to pay 45% so she can live at our marrital home and invite the bloke around who she has been having an affair with - i have all the evidence i need - your case looks like he deserves all that he is to get so get the non molestation order out and the occupancy order - my court case is the day b4 my sons 5th bday - what an evil cow of a wife i have eh !

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