Hi, I am not getting divorced but have a partner who is legally seperated and is in the process (or at least his ex is as he has not done anything about it). I really did not want to get involved but certain things Ive seen and heard are worrying me now the relationship is gettting serious.
I met him after the split so I had nothing to do with it. I want to know what the future financial implications are for me and him if we stay together. Currently he is more or less living with me in my house.
His wages are not very high, she earned more than him. He has two kids. I without a doubt agree that he must pay maintainence but I worry about our financial future if he has to pay her money too.
She has 'promised' not to have anything from him but he just has to take care of kids. I worry as he has no solicitor and surely he would be a fool to rely on his ex promises. He left the home to her. They were only married for 8 months (although together much longer). Are there any implications if we marry on any conditions of the divorce?
I do want to stay out of it but Im finding myself sucked in!!
I would say it was foolish to rely on this womens promises. People often change there mind and get nasty when the other person starts cohabiting. I think it would be best to see a solicitor. 8 months is a very short marriage. With a short marriage you tend to come out with what you put in so he may be entitled to some of the house depending what he invested. But you havnt said so its hard to say.
He will have to pay child maint. Its 15% for 1st 20% for second etc. Chris
Hes gave her house ..kids need somewhere to live so I agree he was best to do that. And the child maintainence no probs. But id be a little vexed if he had to pay her money in the future if he was better off. Would my wages ever be looked at etc? Ive never been married so I dunno what goes on.
Pippa - from what you describe, it is unlikely. The primary consideration is the housing needs of your partner's children, and ex. He has left her the house, so those needs are met.
She earns more than he does, so after he pays her maintenance she is in better state financially than he is. If there is a huge disparity between them, it may be that he could apply to HER for spousal maintenance.
Your income would only come into consideration if his ex was without a house or on a lower income than him. In that case, his needs are partially being met by living with you, so it could be argued that he should contribute more to her, to reduce the disparity. However, that does not seem to be the case here.
Either way, your partner needs to see a solicitor and get the finances sorted out. I would recommend mediation for him to agree a settlement with his ex, as it is the cheapest and most effective mechanism to resolve matters.
There is a great thread on here about mediation - link below: