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11 Dec 07 #8826 by donnab
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Can any one tell me how i can prove that my ex's new partner is signing me up for various dating agencys? I already have an injunction against her but need to prove that she is doing this.

can any one advise?

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11 Dec 07 #8827 by PippaF
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i would not let on it bothered u as that may be what she wants. Are they internet sites? cant you just change your email address?

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12 Dec 07 #8857 by gone1
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Hi Donna. U cant prove this. What I would do is just bin them. Or you could redirect them with a note on the outside of the envelope saying "U may find this useful" :)

Chris

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12 Dec 07 #8863 by IKNOWNOW
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Hi Donna, once again it seems as the victims we have no recourse but they win again. The emotional stress is hard and no one seems to want to recognise that. But if she came and punched you, then something would get done. Bruises heal a damn site quicker than emotional scars. You are like me Donna, just wanting to move on, not wanting to lower yourself to their standards. We remain the nice people that we are and get walked all over. The thing is, if we retaliated in some way (which is not us) then I am sure they would find a way of making things stick. I am really getting to the point now where I want to do something, but I know for the sake of my kids and my self worth I won't. So again they WIN !!!!!!!

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12 Dec 07 #8864 by IKNOWNOW
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Hi Donna, once again it seems as the victims we have no recourse but they win again. The emotional stress is hard and no one seems to want to recognise that. But if she came and punched you, then something would get done. Bruises heal a damn site quicker than emotional scars. You are like me Donna, just wanting to move on, not wanting to lower yourself to their standards. We remain the nice people that we are and get walked all over. The thing is, if we retaliated in some way (which is not us) then I am sure they would find a way of making things stick. I am really getting to the point now where I want to do something, but I know for the sake of my kids and my self worth I won't. So again they WIN !!!!!!!

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12 Dec 07 #8865 by gone1
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IFIKNEWTHEN wrote:

Hi Donna, once again it seems as the victims we have no recourse but they win again. The emotional stress is hard and no one seems to want to recognise that. But if she came and punched you, then something would get done. Bruises heal a damn site quicker than emotional scars. You are like me Donna, just wanting to move on, not wanting to lower yourself to their standards. We remain the nice people that we are and get walked all over. The thing is, if we retaliated in some way (which is not us) then I am sure they would find a way of making things stick. I am really getting to the point now where I want to do something, but I know for the sake of my kids and my self worth I won't. So again they WIN !!!!!!!


That doesent count for women hitting men. When I reported that I was being abused 2 officers came and interviewed me at my place of work. They said that I could take it further but it would be likely that I would be arrested to prevent a breach of the peace. And that was because she hit me!! I had a wacking great bruise on the left side of the face and a bump on the head where I ended up landing on the floor. But it cut no ice and I had the feeling that I was a bit if a wanker for letting her get away with it. Perhaps I should have hit her back?

The thing is that people do some awful things to each other. I am not so sure that police take domestic violence that serious. Especially when its a bloke on the receiving end.

The only winner in divorce are lawyers. Nobody gets away Scott free. Even my ex. Best ones Chris.

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12 Dec 07 #8866 by Louise11
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Hi Donna,

Have you tried speaking to the various dating agencys?
If i were you, I would be ringing them up and demanding to know what information they hold on you. Under Data protection laws, anyone holding personal information on you, have to provide you with the details they hold.
I would be saying to them that you have in no way asked or signed anything to join them and you want the information that someone has provided to them falsely. I.E. the signature.
If it is websites on the internet then ask them for the ISPN (or is it the ISBN, someone on here will no, there are some good comp wizards on here!) address of the computer that was used to make the application. The owners of the site will definately know it. We are all traceable even when using internet cafes, apparentely they have cameras to show who used that comp, what time they did and for how long.
Be safe in the knowledge that because she is doing these things then she obviously feels threatened by you for some reason!
I know all the above is a pain to do but at least if you do, you will feel like they are not winning!
Good luck and keep your chin held high, dont let them intimidate you, bullies come unstuck in the end, especailly when you stand upto them.

Kind Regards
Louise

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