Here's one for you............named co respondent

Ok have been awake for most of the night after being awoken by my suposedly new blokes wife!!!

1) did not know he was married
2) Threats and abuse from his wife
3) Alledgely naming me as co respondent


Now I am not that niave as a general rule and have seen this bloke just 5 times now. Obviously 5 times too many.

Guess I need to know where I stand if I am named as co respondent. Think I am being used as a scape goat really and where is the bloke in question............yes you guessed it dissapeared of the face of the earth it appears.

moon

Hi,
I wouldnt worry about it, you probably wont end up being named. It's usually a threat from the other half to get rid of you. If you are named nothing happens really, the biggest problem is usually if your in a relationship yourself and your other half finds out. There are no real implications for you other than dented pride. Try this for a plan, next time you meet somebody go to their house and make sure their story is true, check it all out before you really go for it. I'm sure you will be ok. Take this advise from a man who has had the same experience as you with a woman. I should have check out her credentials even before I had a date with her
andy x

Moonstar,

Firstly, try not to worry.

Secondly, a threat to name you as corespondent is nothing worth bothering about even if you get a solicitor's letter - ignore it.

If you get a court form then don't acknowledge it formally, write a letter 'without prejudice' saying you have received it and ask what to do next.

Your correspondence with the solicitor should deal with one thing at a time, don't ask or reply to more than one thing in any one letter. Yes, this is a cynical ploy to increase the costs of the other party and for their solicitor to inform them that they are on a hiding to nothing.

The only possible use for naming a corespondent is to get them to share the costs of a divorce, the official and not the actual costs. Once the other party realise that their (quite legal) option of trying to get you involved is actually going to increase their costs, they'll stop trying to get you involved.

Whether you wish to get yourself uninvolved from your new bloke is of course entirely up to you.

Don't worry and please try not to lose any more sleep over it, that leads to wrinkles!

Good luck.