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Men Vs Women -or- Women Vs Men

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13 Dec 07 #8973 by gone1
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I just know this is going to be a hot topic. It has the seeds of some serious discussion. Vail prompted this so he is to blame haha.

Whats the difference? Are we different? Vail reckons we are wired differently. Are we? Whats your view? We could do all the usual stereotypes like multi tasking cooking and cleaning and all that crap. But thats not the real deal is it? Men can do all this stuff no probo.

Personally I think women are the real deal. They make life totally madly happy and they can make life totally hell. But I expect women say this as well about men. So come on people jump in and have your say.

Men Vs Women Lets do it.

Chris.

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13 Dec 07 #8974 by Sgutt
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So lets explode the myth of childbirth first.

If it hurts so bad why do women have more than one child???

Plus the majority then in my opinion 'retire' early to look after the children. Whilst looking after the children my X still had time for daily trips shopping, coffee with friends, pub lunches etc. Did she stay at home to wash, clean, iron?
No she didnt.

I do think however that women have changed dramatically in the last 20 years. When they get to 30 we hear more and more of them ditching their perfectly good, honest, hard working husbands and have affairs. They seem to lose touch with the important things in life and become highly selfish.

Just my opinion of course

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13 Dec 07 #8977 by when will it end
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The great sexist debate – I think we all have the same wires, but to an extend I think we are wired differently, But more so society has wired us differently.
It is expected that men need to be big and strong and not show a softer weaker side, and woman are allowed to be weak and feeble, but to be honest. Speaking from a woman’s side – How many of us use this weak and feeble side to help to our own advantage. and of course when we go guns blazing it’s normally down to pms..
But to keep it simple I think we are the same, a man can bring as much joy and happiness and love just as well as a woman can, they can make you feel alive and feel good. But yes they can also bring us just as much hell,
I assume there must be a 50/50 split – 50% Guys are not very pleasant people, and 50% are genuinely the most amazing people you will ever meet
BUT that goes both ways 50% of woman are the real deal, but the other 50% let the good woman down.

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13 Dec 07 #8978 by gone1
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Blimey Shaun and When. Good opening shots. I just know sparx will fly on this one. I think its less than 50% when. I think very few women are totaly evil. What the percentage is I have no idea. Most of the women I have met are genuine. But like men they all difo. C

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13 Dec 07 #8979 by Vail
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Chris, so it's my fault? Well I'm used to that.

Oh sgutt!

You are being deliberately provocative in an amusing way.

Childbirth hurts because the body send information to the brain in the form of pain. Children are such a delight that the pain is soon forgotten (well maybe not soon, and maybe not even forgotten but possibly considered worth it).

You have put down your personal opinion which I presume is based on your sole experiences.

You seem to resent the amount of time your wife had for personal activities. That and the importance you ascribe to washing, cleaning and ironing indicates you see her in a particularly defined role as a mother (perhaps modelled on your own mother?) and not as a person.

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13 Dec 07 #8980 by Sgutt
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You trying to suggest that my X is actually a person???!!!!

Personal activities eh. So I worked 9 hours a day 6 days a week sometimes 7. When I got home I looked after the kids including bathing and putting them to bed whilst she had time to herself. Before work I put the washing in. 9 times out of 10 it was still in the washer when I got back. I then ironed all my childrens clothes and my own - I wasnt allowed to iron hers!!!

I picked a wrong one - I admit. The majority of woman are good caring individuals who see marriage/motherhood as a patnership. Mine??? well she is a money grabing good for nothing bitch.

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13 Dec 07 #8981 by Vail
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Sgutt,

Yes indeed, your x is actually a person, so is mine, so is everyone's. Your x may not be a nice person, I don't know. I don't particularly want to argue with you, let alone take your x's side (why on earth should I?) but I admit that I disagree with people being treated as objects.

... er.. that's it.

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