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21 Jun 07 #913 by ladymalfoy
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Some of you may find it silly that a grown woman doesnt know the answer do these questions but until I fell in love with a man who was separated,the issues were beyond my pervue.
Am I allowed to live with my partner before his divorce or would it affect the outcome in someway? If so how?
Also,I've been led to believe that once he is divorced we cant live together for 6 months.
Quite conflicting issues.

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21 Jun 07 #916 by Dockley
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Hi Ladymalfoy,

Your question is not silly at all as like you say, unless you find yourself in this situation you dont know many answers.

If your new man is going the court route for his divorce it will almost certianly have a bearing on settlement/division of assets if you are living with him. This will of course depend on your circumstances. If you read several posts on here relating to this issue it will give you some idea of the impact of living with a NP before divorce.
If his ex is reasonable and its all going amicable, then you may encounter very little problems, however I sense that this may not be the case.
In respect of living with him for 6 months after the divorce, this is also related to court. You are asked to declare if you are cohabiting or intend to within the next six monthsat the initial exchnage of inancial infrmation. This has the financial impact also referred to above.
Are you getting any legal advice at all yet?
Spend a bit of time reading the posts and replies, its a great help to understand many of the problems that may lie ahead of you.

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22 Jun 07 #923 by themindboggles
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From my experience i would advise CAUTION,.... I had been seperated 7yrs and divorce going through when i started to live with my NP, got absolute no problems but as for the financials well that is a diffrent story. My np and mother of my child has been dragged into it no end and it would seem the marital financies have now become more about what my NP has or hasnt got etc, she has been blamed in court for my divorce even though i met her several years after seperating and both myself and exw had had other relaitionships. My NP would probably advise you to wait until its all sorted out because thestress it undopubtedly put on your relationship is untrue, that is if you have an unreasonable, stupid and extrememly jelous ex like i unfortunately have. My NP is on verge of leaving me over it all, and my eXW about to end up with the 100% equity she demands through sour grapes, but that will be 100% of nothing as the FMH will prob be repossessed as the mortgage is well in arrears. Tread carefully, cohabit after its finalised, yes form E question if you intend to cohabit in next 6 months, your partner may not intend to when filing the form, he may change mind after the court who's to say you have to wait??

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22 Jun 07 #924 by ladymalfoy
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Thanks for the post.
The finances were sorted out before I hit the scene,he bought her out of the house etc.
The divorce will be one of the online ones as they've been separated for 3 years.
It's just a bizarre situation to think that even though she left ,he can't start over until someone else says so.

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