any advice welcome

thanks so so much for the sensible and clear advice.

Would I be wise to do the following.

Write to her solicitor advising that I agree to her proposal of 2 yrs separation by consent.

Offer her a one off settlement of 20k, with me retaining the marital home , on condition that joint residence order can be agreed together,in the best interest of our daughter.
I would expect at minimum every other full weekend and one weekday after school, is this fair and reasonable ?

What other points would I need to make in this letter,as I would find this solution acceptable as long as the daughters schooling standard was not affected by the move and the joint residence terms were kept to.

Again thanks for sound reasoned advice and thanks in advance for this further guidance.

Every other full weekend and one weekday after school seems reasonable but I am not sure on what basis you get to stay in the marital home, given that this will mean more disruption for your daughter. It is more common for the resident parent to stay in the home so that the children don't have to move.

Sadie

i believe that she wants to move to be nearer her work (30 mins away).i now need to compile a letter to her solicitor to basically offer her solution 3 that our wise atilla put up. The best way of wording is difficult to assess and any good suggestions from you more experienced and knowledgeable on the site would maybe make a big difference in gaining justice.