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29 Dec 07 #9691 by braindearth
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Hi all,

Not really divorce (not yet anyway.....) but: My adulterous wife is proposing to move out with our child and rent a place nearby (if we can afford it of course). She proposes that I stay in the house

Does this action have any imlications for future divorce?

I guess not, but does anyone feel that, in principle this is either a good or bad idea?

Will be seeing a lawyer in any case when they re-open...

Thanks

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30 Dec 07 #9697 by Jacko
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braindearth wrote:

Hi all,

Not really divorce (not yet anyway.....) but: My adulterous wife is proposing to move out with our child and rent a place nearby (if we can afford it of course). She proposes that I stay in the house

Does this action have any imlications for future divorce?

I guess not, but does anyone feel that, in principle this is either a good or bad idea?

Will be seeing a lawyer in any case when they re-open...

Thanks



I cant see there being any implications unless she takes up with some one else. But you say you have grounds for divorce on adultery already?

My wife moved out with the children for 6 months and claimed housing benefit to do it as well! she was claiming income support at the time as I wasn't working.

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30 Dec 07 #9700 by sexysadie
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It might be better for your child to have the stability of staying in the house with your wife and you move out instead.

Once each of you is the only adult in a property you can each claim reduced council tax on that property.

Sadie

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30 Dec 07 #9703 by tigstheterror
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Sorry but the child will have stability wherever it lives and it doesn't state how old the child is either. I am all for either partner staying in the FMH,, but i get annoyed when ppl automatically assume the male should be the one to move out!!!
You have grounds for divorce as you state " adulterous wife" the only difference it will make if it goes as far as divorce is that you will be asked to give your wife her share of the FMH if you remain there. If she remains she can buy you out or you can agree to keep paying the mortgage as part of spousal maintenance and it also goes with the CSA should they become involved,,if you are paying the mortgage then your payments will reflect this.
Good luck whichever way it goes and i wish you all the very best for the coming New Year,i also wish you strength and peace.
Tigs x

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30 Dec 07 #9707 by Jacko
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if it goes as far as divorce is that you will be asked to give your wife her share of the FMH if you remain there. If she remains she can buy you out


If only life were so simple!! I have moved out of the FMH and am living with my parents again.The mortage has been paid off. I doubt she could raise a mortage for 40% of the current value even though her net income is higher than mine.

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30 Dec 07 #9718 by tigstheterror
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Jacko nothing to do with divorce is ever simple i'm afraid,,,,the laws that govern this country are stupid to say the very least. I even know most legal firms have solicitors working there who tell the applicant to go for the jugular!!! It's the take him/her for all he's worth because you're entitled by law,brigade who don't realise or care what suffering they put on folk.
One thing will always remain,as long as folk get divorced there will always be someone there to tell them to go for the jugular and charge the earth for it in the process!!!
Take care all
Tigs x

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30 Dec 07 #9721 by Jacko
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tigstheterror wrote:

Jacko nothing to do with divorce is ever simple i'm afraid,,,,the laws that govern this country are stupid to say the very least. I even know most legal firms have solicitors working there who tell the applicant to go for the jugular!!! It's the take him/her for all he's worth because you're entitled by law,brigade who don't realise or care what suffering they put on folk.
One thing will always remain,as long as folk get divorced there will always be someone there to tell them to go for the jugular and charge the earth for it in the process!!!
Take care all
Tigs x


Tigs,

Yes I agree with your sentiments entirely. Thats what my wife would like to do. take me to the cleaners. She wanted me out and to keep everything which so far she has done. Even wanted my car which I need to go to work in and for visiting the C every time her sol asked for it I politely told them to coco. I'm self repping.

I can't see there being an order to sell the house as there are 4 children. I'm currently living in financial limbo. Her moving out and me back in isn't an option for several reasons.

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