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02 Jan 08 #9841 by lovey
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feel so low at the moment, just feel like when the house is sold just going off somewhere and escape from everyone and everything and not come back does anyone ever feel like this,

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02 Jan 08 #9843 by Angel557
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Yes i have many times , i have felt like packing a bag and to keep walking , dunno where to but i did'nt want to stop.

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02 Jan 08 #9844 by topaz
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absolutely, it's ok to have these feelings sometimes but please dont't act on these feelings, as they do pass. you said you're feeling low just now and I'm glad you've logged on and told someone how you feel because now you've shared your thoughts I can say we all get these moments and it does get better.I too log on when I'm feeling down and I find it a comfort to know others on here know what it's like and it gets me through the bad days, which do decrease as time passes.I think the "wanting to escape" feeling is like some instinct we have to protect ourselves when we hurt it's just not very practical though.So keep going,tell yourself you're doing ok and you'll get through it.

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02 Jan 08 #9845 by nasus999
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I feel like that just now. about to go through 2nd divorce.realise:( the nicer i am to husbands the worse of i become

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03 Jan 08 #9887 by ToxieDogg
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I can relate to feeling like this as well, just as soon as I think I'm managing to cope with things, another setback happens. My STBX wife petitioned me at the beginning of November, and I've just come back from spending Xmas and New Year with my family to find....a Decree Nisi in the post (dated 19th December). World's quickest divorce?!? I should be happy, but I'm still coming to terms with what happened....she pulled the rug out from under my feet in the middle of October, telling me that she just didn't love me anymore but nobody else involved, then she petitioned me for 'unreasonable behaviour'...she more or less put that I played on my PlayStation too much because she couldn't think of anything else....I agreed immediately because I was distraught at the time and was prepared to say or do anything that I thought might make her happy....then I found out just under a fortnight later (from her emails, not from her directly) that she'd been having a full blown affair with an 'old friend' from college. She has since refused to leave the house and flaunts the affair in front of me (phone calls, etc.) now that it's out in the open. At least we haven't got kids.

I'm moving out for good on 19th January, but I too feel like just 'disappearing' off somewhere, my head feels really torn apart at the moment and I feel like I've had this horrible situation just forced on me out of nowhere in record time.

It's only really my friends and family keeping me going at the moment, and I know that if I did anything silly that it would hurt them, so I don't.

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03 Jan 08 #9889 by gone1
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I know how you feel. I had nowhere to go. And I didnt want her to step over me in the gutter. But in the end I did walk away (well drove). I got all mys stuff in a luton and drove away. I will never forget that day.

You have some tough times ahead of you. But keep a straight head on you and the light is at the end of the tunnel. Its very dim at times but its up ahead a few bends away. Keep strong, keep your head down and one day you will emerge into the light. As I did. Its there for all of us. Keep strong, Chris.

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03 Jan 08 #9903 by lovey
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How long did it take you, we have been seprated for a year now and divorce is taking its time, i thought i was getting stronger but obviously not . i know you just have to get on with things i agree with toxidogg it is only family and friends that keeps me here. lovey

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