One of my hobbies is archery. Its something I have enjoyed for about 3 years but the past year I have really struggled to have any enthusiasm for it. I am unable to focus properly on what I am doing and my shooting has gone the hell as a result.
To make matters worse I have to contend with my step son going too. He goes out his way to make me feel uncomfortable and I have little doubt will start some kind of an argument with me in the future. Being 15 he is loyal to his mother no matter what she does.
The problem is that if he does that he will be banned from the club. If I allow myself to rise to the bait, I will be too. Neither are things I really want to happen.
Also I have found that I have lost interest in reading and watching TV or films. I just cant seem to keep my attention on it any more. I know that is probably just a temporary thing, due to the stuff I am being put through by the divorce. But I have to ask, how long does it last? Is there some point where it goes away and you are suddenly back to the old you? Or is it a point where you become the NEW you?
I had the same problem...and strangely enough, over the same sort of timescales and also with archery!!! Small world!
I started playing about 4 years ago, just after my separation
, and took to it really fast - very enjoyable both for taking my mind off the crap I was getting from my ex as well as the social aspect of relaxing with a good bunch of folk.
I too lasted about 3 years before realising I just couldn''t be bothered with it any more - without any competitions to take it to the next level I didn''t see any point in continuing. I stopped going and heard recently that the club had folded as there were not enough people going to pay the hall rent.
I''ve since immersed myself in various other hobbies in fits & starts - mostly reading and online forums (which are not always good for the blood pressure lol), but nothing has the same ''bug'' as archery did. I''m sure, given time, something will.
It seems to me that your best option would be to stop going for a while; either you''ll eventually miss it & go back refreshed, or you''ll stop altogether, but there''s really no point if you''re not enjoying it. It will also keep you at a safe distance from your step-son, thus killing 2 birds with one stone.
Until then, as far as hobbies go, maybe see what else is available in your area and see if anything else grabs you. I''m lucky that, being self employed, I can put any excess spare time to good use, so maybe start up doing something you enjoy and can earn a little money from - it''s always a good incentive as you can put it away towards a holiday or some other treat for yourself.
I dont want to stop going. I enjoy the company of the guys at the club a lot. Theyre good friends. Plus of course I am the club''s Child Protection Officer. It would leave them in a rather bad situation. They would need to elect another and finding someone willing to do the position is tough enough as it is.
Living where I do there really isnt much to do. That was why I was really pleased to find the archery. I still dont really think its that I have lost interest, more that I am unable to let go of all the crap going on and that means I cant concentrate or enjoy shooting.
The issue of my step-son may never arise. I have warned his mother what the position is. He himself was thinking of not returning. So with a little luck he will have enough sense to keep his mouth closed. We will see. In any case if he starts, I am going to try to keep calm and simply walk away, pack my stuff and go.
My only other hobby is Sci-fi and Sf conventions. I doubt I will have much money to be going to any conventions any time soon.
Hello, I am going through the same thing. And also with archery!
I bought myself a lovely bow last year and did a beginners course. Really enjoyed it and was getting good scores but now can''t concentrate on it.
Maybe one day I''ll pick it up again.
At least you have a nice club to help out with. I really hope you don''t encounter the issue with your step son. Be good if you can keep involved with running of the club and social side.
I think a clear mind is needed for this sport.