I tried writing a fairytale for the lil haways about divorce but no matter how hard I tried it kept coming out that" Once upon a time there was a wicked old harridan/crone who cast a temporary insanity spell on prince charming to get married. After making his life a misery for 10 years she had an affair with an ugly troll and robbed all of Prince Charming's dough off him and his castle and lived miserably ever after with the troll in his castle after evicting him with 8 black bin bags."
I dunno but I was just thinking it didn't have that positive a vibe about it
You don't actually have to write the story yourself. You could take Garnet's idea(with respect Garnet!) and make a book which is unique to your children.
Why not begin with the children recording the things they still do with each parent, granny and grandads, at school, with friends, etc?
The children could paste in drawings, pictures and photographs, brochures, admission tickets, programmes etc from places you and Dad take them, recording that, 'Yes life has changed but we're still loved and doing things.'
Depending on the age of the children of course, it could record every day stuff like, 'Today it snowed and we made a snowman.' 'Sports day at school. Dad came.' 'Went to nana's from school.' 'Mummy and granny came to the school play.' 'My school report was ...' 'At the park...' 'My best friend... and the special trips like, 'This is us at the museum. we saw...blah, blah.' and the ideas the children will come up with themselves.
It may help to bridge the gap between what they do with Mum and what they do with Dad and show that things are going on and hopefully that healing is taking place.
Garnet's is such a great idea and could easily be adapted. Are you going to copyright it Garnet?!!!
Best wishes to anyone going through divorce and coping with children. Thinking of your difficulties certainly stopped me from feeling sorry for myself this morning!