Really pleased to hear from one of our longstanding members, ElizaDolittle, that she has turned her divorce experience into a real positive. Her book, which had its origins in her wiki blog, has just been published. Read all about it below.
Hello Wikipeeps! It’s been a while since I was on here daily, but this site was a lifesaver in those terrible early years, when nothing made sense and I really thought I was going mad. I was a frequent poster, and many wikis were kind enough to suggest that I turn my hand to writing.
Post divorce, I had to support myself and my children, which, after 20 years as a stay at home mum, was hard. Having caught the bug here on wikivorce, I started a new blog under a different pseudonym about my new life. On the basis of this blog, I was commissioned to write a guide to divorce. And now it is published: Making Peace with Divorce.
Making Peace with Divorce is a warm and comforting guide to the emotional, physical, legal and financial implications of separation and divorce. It helps you decide whether you need a lawyer, to choose one if necessary, to avoid court if at all possible, but to prepare in case it is unavoidable. It covers form filling, talking to your ex, breaking the news to your children and more. There are tips and pointers to further information, and stories from others who have been there. Importantly, it also suggests how to make the best of your new life, post separation. It contains wisdom I gained here on wikivorce, as well as from my own experience and research. It also contains the insights of fellow divorcee Sarah Rayner (novelist and author of guides to depression, anxiety and menopause).
Not everyone is as traumatised by their break up as I was, and I hope not all Wikipeeps will be in as much confusion. But for those who, like me, were destroyed and distraught, and for others who are floundering, drowning in admin or struggling with the legal basics, I hope that this book can offer a compassionate friend and some hope for the future. I’d love to hear what you think!