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18 Apr 09 #108584 by fairynuff
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Why does he do that? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men
by Lundy Bancroft.

The Verbally Abusive Relationship
by Patricia Evans

Are you the one for me?
by Barbara de Angelis

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10 May 09 #115073 by ThrowingMuse
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I've put a full review of the one that has been really useful - How to mend a broken heart by Christine Webber - practical and has exercises to do - great if you feel you need to DO something.

the other one that has belped me moving forward has been Feel the Fear and do it anyway, again it is about working on yourself and gives lots of ideas for small steps to take to overcome fear and make the most of you.

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10 May 09 #115092 by dissapointed dad
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The world according to Garp


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10 May 09 #115098 by Molly Malone
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What a great post!

I can recommend two very good books...

"The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz... a book about speaking and living your truth. This book was recommended to me by a counsellor and helped me to see I was making the right decision in ending my marriage which I had believed should be for life no matter what. The book helped me to change my perspective and understand that I was doing the right thing, giving me the strength to see it through. I recommend it wholeheartedly.

"Feel the fear and do it anyway!" by Susan Jeffers... there's a whole series, offering practical help to help you to embrace life to the full even when faced with adversity.

Happy reading!

Molly x

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10 May 09 #115126 by YNK000
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Stalking the Soul - Emotional Abuse and the Erosion of Identity, by Marie-France Hirigoyen.

Marie-France Hirigoyen is a Paris based psychiatrist, psychoanalyst and family therapist who has studied victimology.

This book is fairly good as Marie-France looks at emotional abuse in the work place and within close relationships. An interesting read and self help book, take from it what you wish.

It explains abuse very clearly, I think it can help people to differentiate between what is acceptable behaviour and what is unacceptable behaviour.

Healing the Trauma of Domestic Violence - A Workbook for Women, by Edward S. Kubany,PhD. Mari A. McCaig,MSCP. & Janet R. Laconsay,MA.

This is a self help workbook. Though it states 'women' this book acknowledges that men can also be in the same situation, it is namely for ease of wording that she etc is used.

People may find this book useful if they are not attending or do not wish to attend a centre for help with the post trauma that abusive relationships can cause.

It states that it has a complete program of exercises you can do to:

Recognise the effects of trauma on your life
Let go of anger, stress, shame & guilt
Change core beliefs that can lead to involvement in abusive relationships
Confront & overcome your fears
Dispel feelings of helplessness
Avoid future involvement with potential abusers

These books put you in complete control of when to give time to your healing process, the beauty of books is that if you don't feel up to addressing your issues on a certain day you don't have to, gently does it and non invasive when you are feeling delicate.

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17 May 09 #117049 by GothGirl
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It's Called a Break-up Because it's Broken: The Smart Girl's Break-up Buddy by Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt.

I loved this book, it was given to me by a well meaning friend, as a bit of a joke, but BOY did I learn from this.

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15 Jun 09 #124012 by FabDad
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The Red Wine Diet by Rosemary Conley.

In fact, although I did buy the book some years ago I have never read it - I just assumed that the advice was to drink red wine :)

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