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14 Feb 08 #13839 by peterc
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been feeling very down for a couple of days, not sure where i can go from here, its just so painful existing day-to-day - i dont know if she will leave me or if she will love me :(

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14 Feb 08 #13864 by mike62
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Peter,
Have you seen your doctor? I think you are suffering badly with stress and depression and there is help available. Get yourself an appointment today. Let us know that you have done that.
There are no easy answers. But you need to be strong to get through this time. You are sounding very low. Take care of yourself first, then deal with the other issues.
Mike

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14 Feb 08 #13866 by gone1
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I sympathise with you Peter. We all been there. As Mike said go see the doctor. Depression is common in divorcee's and you need to let things settle down. Be strong, Chris

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20 Feb 08 #14456 by peterc
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hi all,

can i just say thanks to you all on this site for the support you have shown and given me. I have come to a realisation over the past couple of days - that the way i am feeling is all down to ME - noone else (yea sure the wife is making me feel like shite - but i cant control that!) - so i have stopped feeling sorry for myself, and stopped being so destructive to myself!

now i feel like there is light ahead - if missus wants to stay with me - well good we can work on that, if she doesnt well its her loss! and if she takes too long deciding what she wants - well i may just decide what i want and blow her!

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20 Feb 08 #14472 by gone1
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Good for you Peter. I can see that you have turned a corner. U will have your up and down days and that is only natural. But in time the good days join up and you will start to get more good days then bad. Keep it up and try and be strong. The race is long and at the end its just with youself. Chris

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20 Feb 08 #14488 by IKNOWNOW
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Peter, you know I have made comment to you about the way you have dealt with things so far. You sound like you are actually passing the denial stage now which is good. You really sound like you have turned a corner for which I am pleased. Don't let yourself get too down, if needs be talk to your gp about antidepressants or counselling or both. I really don't think any of us really knows how hard this divorce lark is before we are faced with it.

Things do get better Peter over time but we all still have our good and bad days. It is a long journey like Chris says but a journey we have to take, maybe with a few detours along the way but we will get there in the end.

We are all here to support one another, so make use of the family you have here on wiki.

Take Care Peter, look out for number one now because you need to be strong.

Regards, Sarah

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