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Scared and Alone life sucks

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24 Mar 08 #17522 by rosiegirl
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Mike, I agree with everyone above. I too am proof that things do get better, life can be good. It does take time and working through all those emotions and I can't say its easy doing that. But it does get better. :)

Have you considered going to your GP and opening up to them. They can arrange counselling for you - I did this last year and it was a turning point for me.

Also here is a 24 hour support telephone number for the Samaritans 08457 90 90 90 - they give 24 hr support for people feeling low, depressed and worse. I've not used them myself so can't personally vouch for them but maybe, when you are feeling very low and alone, try ringing them... and of course come on here, people here are kind, supportive and understand what you are going through.

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24 Mar 08 #17529 by soontobebroke
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Mike,
I know it sounds "pink and fluffy" but this could be for the best and "every cloud has a silver lining"! It will take time, of course, but you must close a chapter of your life and start a new one. The glass may be half empty at the moment but it will, in time, be half full again with positive thinking.
Happiness is paramount and whilst you are lonely now you will find new friends and who knows, you may even find a new soul mate who you can be happy with. Be strong and use your faith to help you through what will be difficult times but think to the future, if for nothing else but for the sake of your children. Good luck mate.

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24 Mar 08 #17533 by mike5555
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Thank you all for comments,It really helps me get threw the day,This was my fist wekend alone,And I did nothing but sit and stair at the tv,felt numb and dead,I always thought I was so much stroger then this,Ha jokes on me,can only go one day at a time right know,I hope I can stay upbeat at work,

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24 Mar 08 #17563 by megan
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Work was my saving grace just carried on with it. Try not to do divorce type things in work time. At least then you feel a bit "normal" for that working part of the day.

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24 Mar 08 #17567 by _lala_
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OMG I know just how you feel - exactly the same situation happened here 3 weeks ago but after 22 years of marriage! There is no easy way of dealing with it all and some days are better than others - usually when I'm at work where nobody is aware of what is happening and I can pretend to be 'normal' despite my breaking heart.

I know though that the only way I'm going to survive this sensibly is to focus on looking after the 'me' bits. It's going to take some effort but I know that if I don't do something positive I will go down the pan so my current action plan includes keeping a blog on another site (where I can set the privacy button) and let it all pour out. Better out than in! I'm also going to book myself on a residential course or two so that I can focus on learning some new skills that I didn't have time to do before and I've also got it in mind to join a local dance team which travels around to various festivals at the weekends. Can I dance - hell no but I can learn.

None of this dulls the pain on the bad days - and today is one of them - but they are all steps away from a situation I didn't see coming and which has changed my whole world forever. Keep the faith then and try and focus on doing something good for yourself for no other reason than because you deserve it. Corny I know but it's amazing what a difference something simple like a walk in the fresh air does - I know, it's something I've taken to doing during work just these last three weeks!

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24 Mar 08 #17577 by Elizabeth
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Hello Mike555,

You are not alone. Your situation is very new and you must allow yourself these feelings, they are dreadful, I know because I was married for 20 years too - my ex not only left - he took both our children! Now, I am not saying my situation is in any way similar to yours or that you should feel any better because there are people worse off - that would be denying your feelings. Mike you look like a guy who has a lot to live for, particularly because of your children - but your photo spells your a winner and you will feel better in time.

Take all the advice you can and keep in contact with friends - most importantly make time for you - and enjoy the time with your children.

Keep talking on this site - I'll worry if you don't!!

:)

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25 Mar 08 #17594 by Marshy_
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rosiegirl wrote:

Mike,

Also here is a 24 hour support telephone number for the Samaritans 08457 90 90 90 - they give 24 hr support for people feeling low, depressed and worse. I've not used them myself so can't personally vouch for them but maybe, when you are feeling very low and alone, try ringing them... and of course come on here, people here are kind, supportive and understand what you are going through.


I aqgree with what Rosie wrote about samaritans. They are not just there for people that want to off themselves. Sometimes its just good to talk (as Bob Hoskins said). I have used them and they are good. They wont give you advice but its a freindly voice on the other end. When you have no one you can talk to then there is samaritans. Falk

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