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Just feel like giving up :'(

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22 Mar 08 #17392 by Sanctuary
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I feel so useless scared & alone. My husband walked out & left me after what I thought was a loving & secure marriage. How wrong was I:( Since he left me, I have been trying to find a job which is proving difficult as I have no work history & dealing with our 2 teenage children (who are proving to be the kids frm hell) He (my husband) won't talk to me:( & thts making me feel asthough i'm the bad person in all of this. I have no real good friends tht I can confide in as basically I was aloner & everything is just too much. I hope & pray everynight when I go to sleep tht I don't wake up in the morning, but I do :'( I just feel like ending everything as I don't think anyone would care or miss me. Even my daughter who came home drunk last nite told me tht I was useless & tht I should end it all. Myb she is right..

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22 Mar 08 #17397 by mike62
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Sanctuary,
Welcome to Wikivorce, the land of the lost!
Hey, however bad you are feeling, there is always hope. Never lose sight of that. Your kids are being evil, but that is what teenagers do. They are really good it it too. Nobody is perfect, not even your husband or your kids.
You have just joined a network of caring people who understand exactly how you are feeling. Time is a great healer, but right now, you need to let it all out and get it off your chest. Time, time, time. Of course it is hard to get a job. Are you claiming all the benefits that you should? Have you spoken to a solicitor about the situation yet?
Life is too precious to waste it on a dumb man who can't decide what he wants from life. :ohmy:You have a new life to look forward to, one where you are in control. You can pull whatever strings you like now.

You are NOT useless. If you were, you wouldn't be here right now.

Smile, because you look much better smiling, and it unsettles the teenagers.;)

Take care, post up some more about how you got here and be nice to yourself. You just got 10,000 new friends
Mike

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22 Mar 08 #17399 by Kentman
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Hello

So sorry to hear you feel so bad. I am there with you though! I also thought I had a perfect marriage and not my whole life has suddenly fallen apart. A long story for its own thread probably. Maybe it helps you to know you are not alone? I hope so. Add me to your friends list if you want to chat sometime. I have just found this forum so not sure how it all works yet.

Andy

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22 Mar 08 #17407 by megan
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Partners that leave have a great way of making you feel it was all your fault. It seems to help them with their guilt. Get a job any job where you can meet people who make you feel good about yourself. A cafe or supermarket tills or care home for the elderly. You will be amazed at what you can achieve on your own. Do it for yourself and when you feel good about yourself your children be proud of you too. Good luck and keep posting

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22 Mar 08 #17411 by sluffman
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Sounds a lot like I was when my wife left me an the children it takes time for the emotional pain to go away but it does hang in there an lift your spirits up. You dont really want to end it all thats why you found this site to chat to people who have been there as well. This is the best place to raise your spirits as 1000s of people have felt the same as you an you can see we all made it through those bad days an worse nights to get where we are now put me on friends an mail me if ya wanna chat :):):Plaugh out loud an smile more people think your mad but it does make you smile inside

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22 Mar 08 #17422 by marriaa
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Do not get depressed.Do not be the victim.use your energy to make a better life for yourself even if initially to show him that you do not need him.After 33 yrs together my husband decided to go with a 27 yr old girl,after just buying a new Aston martin!!!I indulged in one day of feeling very sorry for myself and then just decided to fight back.I am getting on with my life ,I go out quite a lot.I have refused to sign any divorce paper as it would have been to his advantage.I am instructing a lawyer ,something he did not want as he has so much to hide.I must say that my life is different but not worse and I do have a daughter still at home.Today is the first day of the rest of your life,do not let him rob it from you.Good luck.

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22 Mar 08 #17423 by marriaa
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Do not get depressed.Do not be the victim.use your energy to make a better life for yourself even if initially to show him that you do not need him.After 33 yrs together my husband decided to go with a 27 yr old girl,after just buying a new Aston martin!!!I indulged in one day of feeling very sorry for myself and then just decided to fight back.I am getting on with my life ,I go out quite a lot.I have refused to sign any divorce paper as it would have been to his advantage.I am instructing a lawyer ,something he did not want as he has so much to hide.I must say that my life is different but not worse and I do have a daughter still at home.Today is the first day of the rest of your life,do not let him rob it from you.Good luck.

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