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When love turns to ????

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05 Apr 08 #18705 by sluffman
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Hi everyone,
When the love has gone an your feelings are cold and you actually loath your ex turning up.
Is this the begining of hate ?? because I have never felt this emotion an dont quite know how to control the way it makes me feel. Apart from trying to be somewhere else so I dont have to deal with it, is there any advice you can offer on how to deal with this strange feeling, as I have never hated anyone ?? an Im not quite sure if its something that will go away or get worse with time

:woohoo:Kind regards Sluff:silly:

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05 Apr 08 #18720 by Elle
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Could be you are detaching from the person and not enjoying/loathing the situation is part of your accepting the changes. I dont think its the beginning of hate...but as with all change...we all adjust differently.
Take care

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05 Apr 08 #18732 by rubytuesday
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Hi Sluff

We all expereince differing emotions during the detachment proccess you are currently going through. Hate is just one of them, but it is not true hate, it will pass, and there will other emotions for you to contend with along your journey. These are all natural, human emotions, they prove we can still feel.
I wouldnt try to bottle up your emotions, try to find an outlet for them, one that is good for you at this time in your life.
This feeling that you are experiencing now will pass, in time. Give yourself time to adjust, one day at a time.
Take Care

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