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09 Apr 08 #18976 by Fiona
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Sorry to hear of your predicament. There was a similar situation earlier today.

Start recording evidence. Go to the police with the intention of logging incident rather than pressing charges. Hopefully the police will speak to your husband and he will stop. Also if you feel anxious see your GP. Pestering and threatening *repeatedly* (more than once) is molestation.


The Family Law Act 1996 sets out the criteria for the making of a non-molestation order - "all the circumstances including the need to secure the health, safety and well-being of the applicant or of any relevant child". The following factors must be taken into account by the judge when deciding whether to grant an order;

1. There must be evidence of molestation.

2. The Applicant must need protection.

3. Judge must be satisfied "on the balance of probabilities" that the Court's intervention is required to control the behaviour complained of.

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09 Apr 08 #18977 by Fiona
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Sorry to hear of your predicament. There was another similar situation earlier today.

Start recording evidence. Go to the police with the intention of logging incident rather than pressing charges. Hopefully the police will speak to your husband and he will stop. Also if you feel anxious see your GP. Pestering and threatening *repeatedly* (more than once) is molestation.


The Family Law Act 1996 sets out the criteria for the making of a non-molestation order - "all the circumstances including the need to secure the health, safety and well-being of the applicant or of any relevant child". The following factors must be taken into account by the judge when deciding whether to grant an order;

1. There must be evidence of molestation.

2. The Applicant must need protection.

3. Judge must be satisfied "on the balance of probabilities" that the Court's intervention is required to control the behaviour complained of.

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09 Apr 08 #19094 by topaz
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Thanks for the advice Fiona.have already documented details of the events for my sol.I had also e mailed details to a relative just after 1st incident, in case anything happened to me that night.that e mail has been saved.
Luckily had a witness present at the second incident so that's also proof.
I will do as you suggest,hopefully my sol's letter (2nd) will sort it or at least bring him to his senses.I'm not holding my breath though.

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09 Apr 08 #19097 by peterc
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hey topaz - hope things go ok for you!!! stick with it, he cant harm you - dont let his behaviour to you get you down - that is what he is hoping for! turn away / walk away, show him you aint listening to him!

sad person who wants to continue to control you like this.

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09 Apr 08 #19100 by sexysadie
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Topaz, have you talked to the police domestic violence unit yet? If not, you should do so as then your fears will be logged. You should also call the police if you think he will hit you, rather than wait until he does.

It would also be a good idea to call Women's Aid as they probably know more about it than your solicitor does. There is also an organisation called Rights of Women who produce a Domestic Violence Injunction handbook which tells you how to get a non-molestation order on your own. You can order it from them and get them to send it to a safe address such as your work.

Best wishes,
Sadie

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09 Apr 08 #19103 by topaz
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thanks Sexysadie and Peterc, no I spoke to sol first and thought there was no way I could afford to do anything but just read what you said and will ring or e mail those contacts ASAP.thanks.

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