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I am not doing well

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10 Apr 08 #19141 by mike5555
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Signed everything away yesterday house and all
I am a man that feels he has no future,When I left the atty office,Ex told me she has been seeing a gut 12 years younger then her,After 23 years my life sucks

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10 Apr 08 #19142 by rubytuesday
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Hello Mike

"life sucks" - yes it does at times. We all are going, or have gone, through this emotional nightmare called divorce. It is often difficult to see the good bits of life because the bad bits seem so huge and insurmountable. I understand that life seems bleak for you now, been there and got the t-shirt too, but bit by bit, the light will come back into your life. You just need to give it time, talk to people, look after your well-being, and above all allow yourself to heal emotionally.

"no future" - your children, Mike. Are they not your future, your present, your whole world? They need you now, and for every day that is to come. I know that without my children, life over the past 3/4 years would have been so much harder. You are lucky, Mike, you have children, I know of others who have raised another's children as their own, only for them to lose those children when the marriage has ended.

This may be the end of a life as you have known it, but, out there, is a whole new life waiting for you. Just take it one day at a time, and little by little, the sun will shine again for you.

Please keep in touch,

Take Care

Ruby

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10 Apr 08 #19148 by anotherone
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Hello Mike,

Please please don't give up, just think of your kids Mike, they need you,that is what is getting me through all of this.

This is all quite new to me too, after 28 years, yes it hurts like hell but you will get through this, one day at a time.

I feel like I am just angry about everything at the moment, but I am sure it will pass.

Take care of yourself Mike

anotherone xx

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10 Apr 08 #19152 by jelly4toes
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hey mike hang in there big guy.this pain is the worst thing ever .i spent 6 hours yesterday on my 45th wanting to die.after 22 years of giving my heart and soul i am broken to pieces.thoughts of death entered my head i imagined the relief and the peace,no more pain.it was not a choice i could take no matter how bad the pain.
how could i leave my little girl living her life in the knowledge her mother abandoned her.my dad died when i was 8 years old.i still carry the pain of abandonment it still hurts to this day the same way it hurt all those years ago.don't do anything silly your kids will feel the pain forever.
chunk it down babysteps are the way to go.when you feel so, so crap then you really have to chunk it down.your wounds are real take time be patient a day an hour or a minute deal with whatever you can face.
we are here to share your pain and we would like to share ours with you.have faith trust that it will be ok keep telling youself that is true.hugs from the uk.

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10 Apr 08 #19154 by jelly4toes
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catch some more hugs from the uk:)

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10 Apr 08 #19156 by mike5555
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I am broken in so many pieces,trying to stay possitive
my kids is all i have left,and wife is trying to turn them on me,She is horriable,she is doing it so the kids dont want to live with me,She is afraid she will lose them

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10 Apr 08 #19160 by anotherone
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Mike,

How old are your kids?

Please stay strong for them,remember small steps, you will get there.

((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))

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