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Concentrating at Work

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25 Apr 08 #20652 by Goofyfoot
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I go through phases of not being able to concentrate at work for thinkng about what is going on with the divorce and it's associated gubbins. My work isnt that interesting anyway, but has anybody got any good tips on howto remain focused?

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25 Apr 08 #20653 by rubytuesday
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Hi goofyfoot

You could try writing "to do" list each moring, making it as acheivable as possible for you, ie, realistic. when you have complered each task, cross it off your list, thus you are then able to see your acheivements clearly.

I have a very poor short-term memory, and find this works well.

Ruby

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25 Apr 08 #20654 by mike62
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Goofyfoot,

Log onto www.wikivorce.com

Click on 'Click here to join chat'

You will find your day totally disappears. You won't get ANY work done, but you will have had a fun afternoon.;)

Mike

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25 Apr 08 #20660 by IKNOWNOW
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Goofyfoot,

I am with Mike on this one, but sadly life has to go on as normal as possible.

This may sound strange but can work for some, it is sometimes suggested for people who can't sleep for worrying about things.

You write down the things that are troubling you or that you really don't want to think about and then you put them in a draw out of site until you are ready to look at them.

Maybe this will work for you, maybe it won't.

The other thing to think about is, worry about things that you can do something about today, anything you can't then put it away until you can do something about it.

I know these things are easy to say and not so easy to do but anything is worth a try.

Best wishes,

Sarah

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25 Apr 08 #20666 by mikecharlie
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That's excellent advice.

I am suffering from the same problem. I even took a posting 180-degrees in the other hemisphere but I still can't work.

I hope things get easier for you.

MikeCharlie.

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26 Apr 08 #20689 by Goofyfoot
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Thanks for the messages, I like the idea of logging on the chat but really need to be doing MORE work not NONE!!

Goofy

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03 Jun 08 #24453 by DragenOnnn
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unfortunately I suffered so badly with this throught the breakup in February i lost my job in March at my year end review, i had to sign a non disclosure agreement to get a severance pay which I'm still waiting foR, and am going to see a solicitor today - it's a long story that includes deep clinical depression.
it's taken a very long time just to get to see a counsellor - let alone over 4 months to get my x2b to a mediation meeting to agree to access to my toddler. no answers here sorry.

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