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01 May 08 #21369 by buxtonman
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I have deleted this as I was too depressed to tell the story really!. it is awful for me to read it now. Perhaps this too is part of the healing.

Andy

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01 May 08 #21375 by Angel557
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Welcome to wiki

It's very hard and suffocating being controlled by a person , do you know what has caused you to become like this ? Was you like this before she had affairs,

Depression is an awful thing to have harder to deal with if you don't seek help for it , you don't always have to go on medication even though i chose to and i'm having counselling maybe thats the way you need to go see your doctor for some counselling there is no shame in asking for help the doctors see it every day.

I carried my mobile around with me all the time i had nothing secret on there just silly texts from my mates male and female but where he controlled my life in every aspect i wanted to keep a little bit just for me, and i know he would of made more out of the texts.Maybe her having a 5 day break will do her some good give you both time to think recharge your batteries and then hopefuly it will give you some strength.

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01 May 08 #21378 by buxtonman
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No, I wasn't controlling or jealous before the affairs. These are new emotions. I hate them too! But when someone has betrayed you, you become anxious about any secrecy at all. The things I discovered were so shocking to me and I have become terrified of any secrets whatsoever. The more that I try to restrict her though, the more she fights and wants to go off for days by herself. It's a destructive cycle that is hard to break.

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01 May 08 #21384 by GeJay
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I'm in a similar possition,
my wife is having a txt afair.

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01 May 08 #21399 by buxtonman
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Mine started with the internet. There are some nasty sites out there.

Andy

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