Hi. I have been married for 14 years. H had a kind of breakdown last summer and ended up on anti depressants. Would never talk about what was wrong.Said he didn't know. Then in Oct after a row he left and went to his mothers for 2 days. Came back but things were still very rocky. Left again on 2 Jan and after 9 days I fled to my parents to get away. (parents live 400 miles from me). While I was away H moved back in but only really stayed on my return due to feeling pressurised. Stayed until 9 Feb then left again and has been gone since. Hes at this parents and they have bought a plush caravan and stuck it on their drive for him to live in. Things were tense between us and only really had contact for children. Then things started to get a bit friendlier in March. Then over easter my parents came down to stay. On Easter sunday he came over with eggs for kids and said he needed to talk to me. Told me that his best mates wife had told her h that she didnt love him anymore and was attracted to my h. Turns out theyd had a bit of a fling. texting, the odd coffee and a kiss from what ive been told. Needless to say it ruined him and his mates friendship but at this point I still wanted him back. On the tuesday he came to tell me hed lost his job. On the weds I asked him if there was anything else and he confessed to seeing another woman ( different to mates wife). Apparently had been seeing her as friends since last summer and had started sleeping with her after xmas. I truly believed he has had a mid life crisis. After the confession he told me it was over and he wanted to work things out with me. I still believed we might be able to cos as I said it was all so out of character for him. So we started to try (him still living at his mum's). But everything seemed to be on his terms. He was just dipping in and out of family life when it suited and leading his single life the rest of the time. He had seen this other woman a couple of times since his confession but always had a reason why he had to.