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Do us mothers have to be perfect all the time?

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10 May 08 #22003 by KarenS
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Hi What Now
Do us Mothers have to be perfect all the time? I hope not cos I'm not. My h left us 3 months ago and is living with another woman. I have 2 sons aged 13 and 18 and try to be patient and understanding but now and again I lose the plot completely. Yesterday the handle fell off the toilet which caused the whole thing to overflow and flood my downstairs room. My son's art teacher was on the phone at the time telling me that he hadnt turned up for detention and my eldest was asking how long dinner was going to be. I lost the plot completely screaming at them that it's alright for dad and his fancy woman who were probably enjoying a nice romantic meal whilst I had all this to deal with. I broke down and cried my heart out. Once I came back to earth and stopped feeling sorry for myself I realised how upset I had made them and this made me cry even more. I should be thankful at how they are getting on with their lives and not letting the situation upset them too much but I also want to remind them of what he has done but to be honest I don't think they need reminding just the look in their eyes yesterday said it all. So today I am trying to be strong and force a smile. At the end of the day I am here with my kids and always will be. He is the sad loser in all of this - not seeing his boys every day growing into fine young men.

So don't worry if now and then you are not perfect. They love you - you have not deserted them - you are their security now as I am my boys.

Ex has just text to say that he has to live with what he has done to me every day and the hurt he has caused. Well I hope it bloody well hurts him as much as it has hurt me.

That feels better. Thanks for listening. K x:)

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