hi jackie,oh i feel for you, i have been going through the same thing,and i was so smug,i thought i had a fantastic marriage,well the shock almost killed me! i echo what sarah said you are at the right place now,i hope to see you in chat soon...take care love smoker xxxx
Jackie, sorry to hear your story, which alas is fairly similar to most experiences here.
Just read the bit about your father-in-law, great to keep in contact with his family, but sometimes the fact that you do not want to hear all about this 'current partner' needs to be explained to the tougher skinned people.
Keep talking, and please realise that you have in no way humiliated yourself, she should be ashamed of herself.
the inlaws it is true blood is thicker than water.be honest tell fatherin law not to talk bowt him it hurts too much.my mother in law meant the world to me she would ring me every day and tell me how she was so ashamed with her son for treating me the way he did in the marriage,each day we shared tears on the phone .she was by my side for 20 years i supported her thru cancer i thought we had an unbreakable bond.until a year into this mess she declared that she had to be there for her son.she turned her back on myself and my daughter when i was at my most vulnerable.the plug was pulled on our relationship.another example of not knowing the person you loved.you find a certain inner strength as you go thru this, a strength you never knew existed within you.I hope that one day i will be able to trust again can't see how though.My big fear is that my daughter has learnt how people cannot be trusted.