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Taking my wedding ring off

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10 Jun 08 #25669 by jelly4toes
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my ex took his off 4 years b4 he started the hanky panky what really makes my eyes roll is the day he cme round approx 3 weeks after leaving.He popped round to collect daughter for the weekend.On his wedding ring finger was a new mutton dressed as lamb type ring.He had told me there was no one else of course and that I had driven him away.Being so madly and truly in love with him I had believed all the crap and fully blamed myself for driving him away.
Here was a small man who had always hated any kind of jewellry who always described other men who wore jewellry as w.....s wearing a ring given to him by the new woman.I asked him about it he told me he had bought it for himself,and would you believe it i believed him,while i tried to ignore that feeling of twisted fear and panic rising up inside me. i think his words were 'i am doing things differently now'....I still have the tape recorded conversation..i for one never want to see another wedding ring.

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10 Jun 08 #25673 by paperbackwriter
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I took my engagement and wedding ring off the day I left him and they're still at the bottom of my jewelry box.

One day when things get really bad I'll sell my engagement ring - I have no problems or feelings of guilt about that - I paid for it after all - and my wedding ring was originally belonged to my Grandmother....

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11 Jun 08 #25902 by emma b
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He struggled but wore his for one year after we married, then took it off as it felt uncomfortable, only wearing it for special occassions I was comfortable with this at the time and still am.

I always took my rings off to sleep and to go to the gym. The day he left, I went to the gym and had a good "blow out" session. When I got dressed, at the moment I would usually put them on, I didn't. I didn't think it was right.

He noticed about 3 weeks later and was miffed, but said little.

What to do with them now? Maybe when the time's right, I'll get them redesigned and wear them on my right hand, sort of sounds appealing .......... but not just yet.

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