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that awful empty i am a failure feeling

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12 Jun 08 #26127 by ghosthunter
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I empathise with you today was a good day, feeling more normal, tonight it all went pear shaped. The ex broke in and took the classic car (joint asset), he sent the police round to accuse my daughters of harassment for texting him and calling him a d*ckhead (which is factual not abusive) and he stole my sky box belonging to sky. Hubbie ran off with my best friend and neighbour and when I and her husband went round to their house we got bashed but got into trouble with police for it as we had the temerity to knock on their door and get attacked. Police advise has gone to the CPS for a decision on prosecution and at 52 and a law abiding citizen I face the possibility of being prosecuted for Affray, life couldn't get much worse. I feel a failure as a wife, failure as a mother and general f*ck up at life, so I can empathise with your feelings and if there is light at the end of the tunnel I can only pray it gets brighter as at the moment it isnt even a glimmer.

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16 Jun 08 #26645 by Daisy049
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hi jellytoes..

hun you are beautiful and kind and funny in chat and you will not be on your own forever if you dont want to be...

but you do have to give yourself time, and space to try nd find you again...

you are the key to your own happiness as falk says life is what you make of it.

i now understand that when im having a bad day i accept it and deal with it and work through it and let it all out....nothing beats a good cry when you need it...

i havent known you for very long and dont even know your situation but try and remember where you were emotionally when this all started and look at yourself now...see a difference ???

i hope so, focus on that and the good things in life....positive mental attitude hun which i know is hard sometimes....

take care
daisy
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17 Jun 08 #26743 by ghosthunter
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Thanks Daisy I was at a particular low that night, slightly stronger this week but always waiting for the next mortar bomb from the other camp. Husband has gone off with my friend, doesn't see the children, I got attacked when I went round to confront them and after he took the car the police came round and accused me and the kids of harassment. Life couldn't get any better.

I hate the weekends as I have time to think so I work hard to keep my job which I love and keep the family together, whats left of it. I know it will get better but as everyone knows in here, its so hard. I spent over half my adult life with that man and apart from anything else its like losing everything familiar in your life.

Thanks again.

J

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