It is all very familiar, the Stbx left mid January and my god if has been hard, and still is but it is getting easier, not every day is easier some are horrible. I do wish I did the "no contact" but I just wanted answers but to this day he ignores my questions, so my aim is to take control and think about me for a change, I don''t even recognise me anymore. Thanks all to everyone for the support xxx
I''ll second that! Wish I had found this piece a year ago, but on the other hand I have lived it and can confirm that much of it has been true in my situation (wondered where I got that elephant analogy from - thanks Marshy it has helped me enormously).
Thank you for sharing this with us Shoegirl.
Much of what you have written is sooo horribly familiar.
unfortunately I am having a few ''wobbles'' of late as the impact of my ''H'' leaving our marraige of 27 plus years for his secret mistress of 10 yrs continues to play out, now the first grandchild has arrived.
And ''digesting the elephant in small chunks '' , is such a good analogy.
Thank you for such an I depth and honest insight, I recognise so much of your story, I am only a week into my journey, I am not eating or sleeping much. I try to put a brave face on things for the sake of our son. I still don''t know if my husband is having an affair or not or even why he left I don''t know if I ever will. Great advice about being your own best friend I never thought of it like that.