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23 Jun 08 #28036 by ivorytower
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Hi sun

Sorry you’re having a down day know where you’re at I was so down on Friday I did nothing but cry all day. It sounds like she wants to keep you as here backup plan and it’s not fair on you. Don’t fall for more lies.

You are not a saddo at all. Just too many confusing emotions going round and remembering the person we loved. I keep telling myself that person isn’t here anymore and try to look at he person he is now, the one who lies, cheats, and shows no emotion about the break-up of our marriage.

hope you both have a better day today.have a hug each from me
Jude x

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23 Jun 08 #28047 by jelly4toes
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thanks hun.

feel such fear in the pit of my stomach faced bankruptcy now dealing with the repercussions of that.still have my job which is wearing me out and killing me off.daily fear of reposession ex2b doing everything he can to make sure that happens and the responsibility of nurturing and supporting our daughter who has done nothing to deserve being in the middle of this.I can't bear the thought of our daughter losing the security of her home and familiar surroundings.I can only keep doing my best but it really is just not good enough.

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23 Jun 08 #28054 by Scruff
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Hi - know what it feels like. Wouldn't it be nice to give her the tee shirt to wear for a while. Wonder what my ex would do if he saw the world through my glasses for a change. Keep strong - sounds funny coming from me!!!

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23 Jun 08 #28081 by buxtonman
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Hello Sun!

I can identify only too well with your emotions. I can only say that I empathise as well as sympathise with you. My ex-wife also had affairs that eventually tore us apart. Every now and again, she gives me a little hope that things could be repaired. Then she takes away the hope until I am on the floor again! And so the cycle goes. This weekend she spent with the last guy she was seeing when we were married. It still hurts but I have stopping letting her know that it hurts which has given me back some control. Also, the more she messes with my head, the less I like here which also helps. Love takes a long time to die but I am hopeful that day will come soon.


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23 Jun 08 #28125 by Poppie
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Sun, your ex is playing with your emotions, try not to let her see how much you hurt. I find it helps to try and detach myself from what ex is doing, it is really difficult as I still have to see him when he collects son but other than that I have no contact with him. We are all very vulnerable right now and the slightest thing affects how we feel. Be strong and I hope you are feeling brighter soon. Take care, Poppie

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23 Jun 08 #28174 by Sun 13
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Thanks for all your kind words all, it makes a big difference to get messages like these it really does. Especially as they come from people who know how it feels to be on the receiving end of all this.

I am feeling much better lately, and there have been a few developments in my life since I started this post. I'll post them up when I can make sense of them :)Maybe even my first blog!

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