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x is demanding my walking aid even.I feel sick!!

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29 Jun 08 #29691 by topaz
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hi BRM,
your offer was unbeliavably kind,so many many thanks.

Luckily a family member came to stay with me so I wasn't on my own for the rest of the weekend, so I felt a lot safer.I am feeling better now and more able to cope again thanks to the support I received from you all.I hope you had an enjoyable weekend with your children.anyway thanks again. Take care.Topaz.

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29 Jun 08 #29693 by Jollyrocket
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Hi there,I read your message and feel so sad for how you must be feeling, being trapped in a house that he is still in and enduring his bullying (which is what he is doing by making you aware he is watching you and claiming all your things) dont want to harp - but it sounds like abuse. I agree with other messages - call the police or at least let him know you will and maybe he will back off a bit? You need to look after you and you alone. if there is no one you can stay with - do you have friends that could come and stay with you? In my experience dealing with ex since he left - tried not to get into the "detailed argauments" eg you did/said i want demand - you are such a.... etc etc. the most important thing is to keep yourself safe pyhsically and emotionally and not allow him to damage you any more. easy to say I know but wish you everything good and hope to hear you are OK really soom

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29 Jun 08 #29696 by megan
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Hi Topaz
have just seen your posts. So sorry that things have got so terrible for you but it seems that at least now you are getting the support you so badly need. You say you have been in the situation for 11months, how have you coped?
Hope things are starting to pick up for you.
Sorry I can't do anything to help but just wanted to say I'm thinking of you.
Look after yourself XXX
Megan

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30 Jun 08 #29724 by jelly4toes
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i think it would be a good move to ring up your local police station and speak to a police officer who is in the domestic violence unit.ask one of them to come and see you at home.it certainly wouldn't hurt to have them on board the abuse you are having to deal with is certainly damaging to you emotionally and as such definitely constitutes domestic violence.I wouls also contavt womens aid.they will help you get through this and they will be able to access a number of services that will be available to support you so that you do not feel so trapped and scared.also keep a diary of his behaviour towards you and make sure to note times and days when particular incidents occur.

Thw police can come to the home and arrest him to prevent a breach of the peace if he starts.so there are things out there to help you .you are not alone.if you reach out the help will be there.
hugs.

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30 Jun 08 #29745 by kidsinbulgaria
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Topaz,

Just some practical advice re headaches. All obvious stuff but you have other things on your mind at the moment.

As you are not getting out of the house much and it is milder weather you need good ventilation (opening windows etc), dress sensibly, drink loads of water and don't stare at the TV or PC all day....

Remember even if he gets your walking aid, it can be replaced (no Judge on earth would ever give it to him though)

He can never totally take away your independence or dignity, however much he tries...

Good luck
Mike

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