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x is demanding my walking aid even.I feel sick!!

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27 Jun 08 #29233 by topaz
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mike, I've spoken to my sol, he said he will ring x's sol now and speak to him regarding ongoing situation of threats,bullying and intimidation and the fact that I'VE agreed to his settlement.just got to wait and see where it goes,hopefully something will be sorted by end of the day.think my sol doesn't really want to go down the nonmol route as he's aware I'm short of funds but something has to happen surely? is it normal practice for one sol to ring x's sol in this situation?

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27 Jun 08 #29235 by BRM
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Where do you live? If can help I will. I have my kids this weekend but let me know & I'll see what I can do.

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27 Jun 08 #29240 by topaz
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hi amanda .thank you, my sol has just phoned me back.he has asked my x's sol to ring my x today and to tell him in no uncertain terms that his present behaviour cannot be tolerated.that his offer HAS been accepted by me and that any issues he has with regards to items of property in the mh he should address via his sol and not directly to me.he must allow me kitchen access without fear of any confrontation with him and also that he cannot realistically claim everything as his or as household thus leaving me with nothing.my sol doesn't know whether it'll have any effect but last chance before opting for a nonmol order he said,as it is so close to the end,it just might work as I've agreed to his settlement offer it may just make him see sense.I do't hold my breath.even my sol said he's no psychologist himself but ,my x's behaviour is off the wall and rediculous.
can one talk sense with someone so barking mad?I don't think so,it may even make it worse if it could get any worse.if it takes off later when he returns I call the police.
I don't know if I could do the order/court bit myself,I'm in poor health,didabled and struggling to get my blood pressure down at the moment,and trying to avoid getting any more chest pains/angina caused as a direct result of the stressful situation.if all else fails today I may have to take you up on your offer.I will let you know.thanks.
thanks to you all for getting me through the past few hours

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27 Jun 08 #29253 by D L
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Topaz

I hope it works and I hope you have some peace for the weekend.

However, if this continues, I am in the office for most of the weekend so call the number that is on the site. If you cant get me send me a pm or shout out for Wiki and one of us will give you my mobile number to call me. If push comes to shove we will get a judge to do a telephone hearing over the weekend.

Take care hun x
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27 Jun 08 #29307 by tricia079
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Thinking of you Topaz. All I can give is a 'virtual' hug
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27 Jun 08 #29321 by confused999
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Topaz,

It sounds to me like he is trying to get in your head. Clearly he doesn’t want your walking stick, he just wants to give you grief and cause you pain. I think if you understand why he is doing what he is doing you should be able to get it clear in your head and let the threats roll over your head. I know it’s difficult but I believe in your case it’s about keeping your head strong and you can do that by seeing what he is doing as an expression of his lack of confidence and security in his own position.

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27 Jun 08 #29354 by topaz
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thanks Amanda and everyone else.
so far ok.... x crept into house earlier, not seen him,when I was making a drink a little while ago upstairs on landing he came out of living room so I went back and waited in bedroom till he went back into l.room.
he's kept away, but I've got my door locked just in case.still struggling with a blinding headache but not feeling as ill as earlier.I was feeling very desperate earlier just wanted to escape it all.
not staying online now just needed to let you know I'm ok and thanks to all.

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