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I should be feeling better, but......

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27 Jun 08 #29333 by elephantandcastle
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Read thought the letter today that my solicitor is sending to my wife, contering her absurd proposal of paying me about 7% of the FH I payed most towards, and whos mortgage I paid off with my fathers legacy... but I just feel rotten. Just brings back memories of happier times and I feel guilty about everything that happened - even after 18 years of bullying and manipulation and not being allowed to be myself.
Oh well I am sure things will wear off in a day or two.:unsure:

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27 Jun 08 #29334 by gorgeous
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Nothing seems fair I firmly believe a bully never wins. Hold on that thought one day.......
Surprising how a good nights sleep makes things better

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27 Jun 08 #29346 by Kalamari
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Let the sol sort out a fair deal for the finances, & just take some time to look after yourself. If you find yourself feeling guilty - take a glass - transfer your guilt into it & put it down the drain!

Guilt is a useless emotion.

From now on life is your choice - choose to be positive.
For the past - cherry pick your good memories, reconcile to the separation.

best wishes

Kalamari :silly:B)

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27 Jun 08 #29349 by elephantandcastle
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Thanks both - am feeling better, relaxed a bit. Hope I have a good nights' sleep, it really can change ones outlook.

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27 Jun 08 #29362 by rubytuesday
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HI E&C

Hope you are feeling a bit better, and hope that you get a good night's sleep, dont feel you have to be alone, pop into the chatroom, you will be made very welcome.

take care and hugs

Ruby

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28 Jun 08 #29381 by jelly4toes
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solicitor is dealing with the nitty so you don't want to go beating yourself up.try to see it that you are paying solicitor to sort the matter nad have therefore delegated the stress.sometimes this works.i have now asked my solicitor to only contact me with good news.i don't expect to hear much then!in my case.

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