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when will it stop???????????

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24 Mar 12 #319926 by survive
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How can I move on emotionally when I am still in the midst of so much rubbish. It it now nearly 2 1/2 years since split and it is still going on. What have I done to deserve this?

I sometimes feel like my brain is going to pop.

I have had FH and got Decree Absolute so think it would all be over, but hell no.

I have an issue with the sale of a foreign property, that needs sorting

I have an issue with the judgment made, that needs sorting in lots of ways

I have an issue with HM land registry, that needs sorting

I have an issue with rental income, or the threat that it will stop being paid, theat needs sorting

I have an issue with ex solicitor... they email me on Friday at 4pm and day they want a reply by close of business that day... yeah right...jump and I will ask how high? Thenn threatening me with possible court action - nasty bullies.

This is enough as well as working 5 days a week (albeit not 9-5), raising my three young children and running about like a headless chicken for theie activites, and having my dad for ''respite care'' one day at the weekend.

Am I feeling sorry for myself, YES. I am feeling stressed - massively.

Where has the fun gome in life, in fact where has life gone in general? It seems nothing but trouble and hassle at the moment.



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24 Mar 12 #319927 by jjones123
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Big hugs to you...

I''m sorry that things are so tough for you at the moment.

Amidst all these tough things, try to find a bit of time for just yourself. Be selfish for a bit - it''s one way to charge your batteries.

Things WILL get better.

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24 Mar 12 #319928 by survive
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Thanks JJ, just wish I knew when.

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24 Mar 12 #319929 by tinkerbell1606
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Hi Survive,
I can completely understand where you''re coming from, but it will pass.
You are an amazing mum & daughter and you are taking care of everyone & everything, and doing a great job.
Try to find just a moment every day to reflect on all that''s past, and remember that you are closer to the end than the beginning.
Your children are going to grow up and you will be happy and stress free again, it''s called karma, let go of the small stuff and take care of your needs too, hot bath & google some stupid jokes, insults for ex that you''ll never say but may make you giggle.
Thinking of you, and admiring your journey so far.
(((((((((()))))))))))))
Tink x

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24 Mar 12 #319931 by sillywoman
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What I was once advised to do when the going gets tough is nothing. Yes, nothing at all in relation to the issues you have to deal with.

Take some time out to do stuff with the kids, of course our job, but let the issues relating to the divorce, finances etc, go, just for a few days.

I suppose, in effect, its recharging your batteries.

But, you have got this far, you will be okay x

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24 Mar 12 #319932 by survive
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Thanks Tink, I desperately want to let go, but am struggling with all this that needs sorting. I barely have time to fit in the phonecalls for all this, and that is what is stressing me out too

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24 Mar 12 #319933 by robinson25
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It will stop eventually. try not to let it all get on top of you and deal with one thing at a time. And if you need a break just do exactly that, take a day off to recharge your batteries from thinking about all the things you have to do.Have a day doing something that resembles enjoyment, i think we all forget to do that as have a lot of stress to cope with and dont make/ or have the time to enjoy life a little. I was gardening today and was feeling a bit frustrated as i have so much to do but feel so tired but i sat and watched our pet rabit jumping around in her run for 5 mins and it was joyous to see as she is getting on a bit!x

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