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29 Mar 12 #320720 by blonde cazza
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When do people start to feel a little better in the divorce process?..Im 13 months in and have just started divorce proceedings....i dont think ive ever felt this bad since my parents died.
I think the pressure my ex is putting me under is immesene and evry day i cry feel extremely worried about the future and i feel my chest is so tight!
Is there light at the end of the tunnel i wonder???:(

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29 Mar 12 #320724 by tigger64
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Why are you divorcing, if you don''t mind my asking? It sounds like you don''t want a divorce? I am going through the same, some days wishing I had never met him and others wishing he was here with me again. It is getting better though, you need to focus on your new life, lean on your friends, it does get better but it is slow.

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29 Mar 12 #320732 by blonde cazza
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Tbh im not sure why we are getting divorced....my ex had stayed out all night one night with friends out of character for him but had been acting very strange beforehand...the night he stayed out all night i asked him to go to his parents and think about what he wanted...never came back nor gave a reason...he just told me down a phone he didnt love me no more...to my knowledge no one else is involved..
He made things are hard as possible for me left me to sell house etc...and now is playing up over financial settlement.
I was doing ok but now im down really down and very stressed and still remembe his words in two years time ill thank him fo all this really will i?!
Im worrid sick about out how my future as will have to go back full time...build my pension up etc etc and im worried about how much its going to cost me to take him to court for fianancial settlement...he was offered mediation but said he didnt have enough disposable income to do it so how is he going to do court!

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29 Mar 12 #320734 by tigger64
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As far as I am aware and I could be wrong but before the court will see you they may insist on mediation, have you looked into legal aid, you may be entitled to it, it will possibly be taken out of the settlement but at least you wont have to worry about the initial cost. It is worth looking into. He is trying to wear you down, don''t fall for it, get strong and fight for what is yours, talk to him see if you can''t come to an arrangement.:)

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29 Mar 12 #320735 by blonde cazza
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I have looked into legal aid but my solicitor said because i own a house now over 100,000 im not entilted to it.
The only agreement we have come up with is i get my deed of trust money back and he gets his pension but he hasnt given full disclosure and has gone on to buy a house which he was trying to hide.
I arn 500 a month plus tax credits which equal 100 plus his cm is 1350 a month.
He earns 2,300 a month plus now has his house plus shares in the family business.
I have tried talking but he wont talk not even about our son and im worn out!:(

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