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12 Apr 12 #323349 by perin123
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Once again I have to speak and make arrangements regarding our son through ex''s other woman.

Ex is so pathetic and she is so in control that he refuses to have any contact with me. Don''t get me wrong, I don''t want anything to do with him but I am adult enough to communicate purely for arrangements to do with our son.

My number is apparently blocked on his phone, and if I send an email she replies.

My mum has just gone ape with me and says I need to put my foot down and make it quite clear that I will not communicate through her with regards to my son.

I have to be very careful as I don''t want to alienate my son by doing this.

Any suggestions?????

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12 Apr 12 #323352 by MrsMathsisfun
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Your ex is a wimp and is obviously completely hen pecked!!

Anyway personally I think for your son sake just accept that she is a control freak and make the arrangements via email even if it means she is the one responding.

It show that your the adult here and the one who realises the most important person in this situation is your son and thats why you will deal directly with the stupid control freak your ex cant stand up to!!

Your so much better and stronger than this woman and thats what she cant cope with. In her heart she know the ex made the wrong decision by leaving you and she is really scared by talking to you he will realise and leave her.

ps my ex was so frightened of his new partner that he wouldnt even get out the car when he collected the boys because she didnt like him talking to me and we had been divorced for years when he meet her!!

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12 Apr 12 #323401 by perin123
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Jaymdee my ex stays in the car when he picks up our son and she always gets out, and if there''s something to say she comes to the door to say it!!!

So totally sad.....????

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12 Apr 12 #323403 by sillywoman
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Perin,tell her to fxxx off!

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12 Apr 12 #323404 by perin123
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Lol Silly!!

I really have had enough of her, she acts like we''re best friends and just has to be the one in control.I know at first it was part of her not finishing with my ex (when she found out he was still seeing me) that ex had no contact with me whatsoever, but now I think ex just hates me and doesn''t want to communicate with me.

If I can be adult enough to see that the only reason we have to communicate is for the sake of our son then why can''t he?

It''s difficult enough knowing that she has anything to do with my son, especially as I know what she is capable of, but it''s made 100 times worse the fact that I have to contact her or answer to her where my son is involved.

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13 Apr 12 #323414 by sillywoman
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Seriously Perin, you husband sounds like a complete wuss and clearly the floozy doesn''t trust him with you one iota.

Simply send a text or email to her and say that all communication regarding the lad will be between you and his father. Whatever she texts back totally ignore.

I would also send a letter to his solicitor to the same effect.

If it means your son doesn''t see his father for a while, sobeit. You have your wellbeing to consider and you are no good to your son with all this stress with her.

Answer nothing whatsoever from her.

Funny how they can afford a car and petrol but no child maintenance.

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13 Apr 12 #323415 by hawaythelads
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I''d turn it completely around and not attempt to communicate with either of them at all.
I mean nothing.
If it''s good enough for the goose that he has stopped all contact with you that''s that.
I certainly wouldn''t be making arrangements about my son with a marriage wrecking wxxxx.
It''s only ever to accomodate his pxss pot aging failed rock star fantasy anyway.
I wouldn''t even bother telling them that either nothing nada zip it.No further communication ever.
Fxck them off out of it completely.
Don''t be having no conscience about my son having a relationship with his father that''s his responsibility not yours.He should have thought about that when he had an affair and fxcked off with the boss.Then got caught out playing the pair of you.So opts for the money with her and moves 100 miles away gives up his job to avoid cm and then prioritises his band''s gig over the kid on the token effort he does make to see the kid.The bloke is a complete fecking *****.
Have you sent my reply to his solicitor yet?
You should do.
All the best
Pete xx

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