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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.

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28 Apr 12 #326996 by raybird
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hi bluebird, take note of the others advice, there very wise, i went on ADs when he left, they take 4 weeks to start kicking in, they will help, been on them 4 months now. look after yourself, things will get better, 4 months for me now, and things are slowly starting to get better, im in the south east, ive PM you, take care xxxxxxxxxxxxx

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01 May 12 #327689 by Bluebird88
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Thank you all so much for your responses, i am trying to keep postive, i have good days, yesterday was one of these- but then i slip into a down (like today) and i honestly think that if i wasnt here noone would notice or care...especially the person i want to care most- my Ex....

I just want this pain to stop :(

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01 May 12 #327700 by johnt153
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Hi Bluebird,

I know exactly where you''re coming from - it''s only a few days since the supposed love of my life ended us by text and to be honest I feel like I''d rather die. But I won''t - nobody''s worth this. That they have treated us in such a fashion is a measure of their worth, not ours.


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07 May 12 #328936 by Bjc67
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Hi Bluebird
One thing is for sure you are not alone. I was married for 1 year until 4 weeks ago when I came home to find all her belongings gone.
Devastated is an understatement, I am really struggling but I have read on here of the many other people that are going through the same emotions and I take strength from the messages of support.
I am assured it will get easier as time goes on and I am a firm believer in that things happen for a reason.
Stay strong and all the support you need is on here from some amazing people offering wise words of direction to help you through this.

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